While it can feel very satisfying to play tit-for-tat, studies show that revenge is often short-lived.
Revenge can make an incident much harder to overcome. Pay-back ties you to the person and keeps you focused on the mistreatment. It prevents you from moving forward and redirecting your life.
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When done rightly, apologies can heal relationships, dissolve anger and hatred, and mend broken bonds. The problem is that we don’t apologize very well, and end up stirring further anger.
A perfect apology has to be without ego, an expression of genuine regret, and the assumption of full responsibility: I am so sorry that you were hurt, this accident is completely my fault, and I really was going too fast, and too carelessly.
A botched or half-hearted apology taints the act of apologising, not leaving space for any further apology to arise from the other person.
F.O.B.O is our inability to decide between different options all of which are decent. It can lead us to paralysis when we’re in the process of making a decision.
For F.O.B.O. to happen, you have to have multiple options. It is mostly a consequence of our world in which everything seems possible.
To beat FOBO, find the Mostly Fine Decision. This is the outcome you’d be ok with, even if it’s not the absolute best possible one.
Many individuals and couples have an idea in their minds about what kind of apartment they would like to move into. The problem is when there are more than a couple of factors, preferences and opin...
To facilitate an apartment choice, list out the basic factors and provide weightage to each, based on personal choice. A few of those elements can be:
Each apartment can then be quickly rated for each factor, making the final decision quick and transparent.
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