Emotional Discomfort

Being late is a chronic habit and shifting towards punctuality can take weeks or even months, as the person has to break down a pattern (of being late) and build a new one.

One has to train their mind to the new normal of being on time by thinking and planning ahead, proactively.

The amount of energy it takes to rush into things and trying to reach frantically on time, and then to repent afterwards, can be harnessed and channelled into working towards being punctual.

Being accountable towards one’s tardiness, when the consequences like the loss of a job, or a major client, can spur a person into breaking the internal denial about their lateness being something tolerable by others.

Empathy is the ability to share another person's emotions after having reached a good understanding of their suffering. There are three main types of empathy:

• Cognitive empathy, which is defined as the ability to understand and to share someone else's emotions by imagining one's self in their shoes
• Emotional empathy, which is based on shared feelings
• Compassionate empathy, which is characterized by the need to actually help the other.

While empathy can make both you and the ones around feel better at times, there are also important dangers worth taking into account:

• Empathy can often lead to unjustified anger
• It can cause guilt and thinking that your own happiness has come at the cost or may have even caused another person's misery.
• it can result in a great amount of fatigue.

• An imbalance or changes in hormones
• Emotional issues (eating for comfort)
• Nutritional deficiencies
• Dehydration 

• Lower stress levels: stress promotes cravings for comfort foods.
• Drink plenty of water: Dehydration manifests itself as hunger, so when you get a craving, drink water.
• Get enough sleep: not getting enough sleep alters the hormonal balance.
• Eat enough protein.
• Avoid hunger: under-eating can make food cravings worse.

For half a century, doctors and researchers have known two things that could have improved, or saved, millions of lives:

• Diets do not work. Not just paleo or Atkins or Weight Watchers or Goop, but all diets.
• Being fat does not necessarily mean being unhealthy.

• A 2016 study that followed participants for an average of 19 years found that unfit skinny people were twice as likely to get diabetes as fat people, who were relatively fit.
• Americans spend more on dieting every year than on video games or movies.

The model consists of a foursquare grid. Each person is represented by their own four-quadrants. Each of these contains and represents personal information, like feelings and motivation, and shows if the information is known or not known.

• Quadrant 1: Open Area. What is known by the person about him/herself and is also known by others.
• Quadrant 2: Blind Area. What is unknown by the person about him/herself but which can be seen by others. (for example, feelings of incompetence, rejection)
• Quadrant 3: Hidden or Avoided Area. What the person knows about him/herself that others don't know.
• Quadrant 4: Unknown Area. What is unknown by the person about him/herself and also unknown by others.

• Don't disclose information that could damage people's respect for you.
• Be careful in the way you give feedback. Some are very open and accepting while others are not. If you are interested in learning more about an individual, reciprocate by sharing information of your hidden self.

Food cravings occur in the same regions in the brain as memory, pleasure, and reward.

• Physical hunger develops over time, and you will desire a variety of different foods. Emotional hunger comes on suddenly and is usually for a specific food that makes you feel good while eating it.
• Emotional eating can turn into a bad habit. Food provides satisfaction. When you experience satisfaction, your brain is flooded with dopamine, which motivates you to keep eating to feel good.

Research revealed that the brain's underlying desire for sweet can be removed by manipulating the neurons in the amygdala. By manipulating the connections to the amygdala, we might lack the basic emotional reaction to taste.

It's like eating your favorite chocolate cake, but not getting enjoyment from doing so. This study could be groundbreaking in treating certain eating disorders.

Not all NDEs are positive - some can be frightening, with intense terror, anguish, loneliness, and despair. Distressing NDEs are underreported because of shame, social stigma, and pressure to conform to the positive NDEs.

A close encounter with death reminds us of the fragility of life and can reveal the layers of psychological suppression that prevents us from these uncomfortable thoughts.

A 2017 study found that NDEs were recalled with greater clarity and detail than either real or imagined situations were. In other words, NDEs were remembered as being more real than life itself.

NDEs are no more likely to occur in devout believers than in secular or nonpracticing subjects.

Physical hunger

• It develops slowly over time.
• You desire a variety of food groups.
• You feel the sensation of fullness and take it as a cue to stop eating.
• You have no negative feelings about eating.

Emotional hunger

• It comes about suddenly or abruptly.
• You crave only certain foods.
• You may binge on food and not feel a sensation of fullness.
• You feel guilt or shame about eating.

While filling up could work in the moment, eating because of negative emotions often leaves people feeling more upset than before.

This cycle typically doesn’t end until a person addresses emotional needs head-on.

Manipulation is wrong because it involves immoral techniques. It means treating the other as mere objects and not as a rational being.

Influence is manipulative depending on how it is being used.

If the manipulator attempts to get someone to adopt what the manipulator himself regards as wrong, it resembles lying. The liar tries to get you to choose a false belief or to make a mistake in what he thinks, feels, doubts or pays attention to.

Much can be learned from how you each deal with conflict, and avoiding it keeps you from that knowledge. 

An inability to resolve conflict is a major reason why in-love feelings fade away.

Ask the important questions -- about values, money, children, religion/spirituality, past relationships.

If you are afraid to be forthright in your questions, then the fear itself is letting you know that your fear of rejection may be in charge -- which means you have more inner work to do.