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Hunter B.
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Essential Things To Look For In a Partner
Instead of making relationships complicated and overambitious, we can just take care of these three essential but overlooked aspects:
- Kindness: A person who is humane and kind, gentle and not too serious.
- Shared Vulnerability: A person who is a good, empathetic listener, and makes us open comfortably about our anxieties, problems and worries.
- Understanding: Someone who has a deep understanding of our traits, quirks, features, obsessions, and the way we see the world. Someone who is interesting enough for us to want to understand.
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