Four things we look for in friendships
- We want reassurance. All of us have our weak areas we are dissatisfied with. We need the kind of friend who understands our thoughts and weaknesses, so we can feel safe in letting down our guard.
- We want to have fun with people who can be silly with us and share our joys and excitement.
- We need someone to help clarify our minds. Sometimes we are confused about certain things, and sharing them with friends help clear our thoughts.
- We network to seek collaborators to help us reach our goals.
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We tend to build friendships with people who share common interests and values, have gone through the same difficulties, and support each other equally.
We are selective about friends because not everyone is able to exchange thoughts and feelings with us.
As time passes, you will probably feel it is difficult to stay friends with some people. Moving on from some friendships simply means you’ve understood the purpose of real friendship.
Let go of the friendships that you can hardly maintain. You can keep the good memories, but moving on is a way to help you get closer to true friendships that serve you both.
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Accept that the self-centered person might never consider your needs first. As much as this friend or lover means to you, know that they have no regard for others’ feelings or welfare. They can have moments of generosity and charm, but for the most part, they simply lack the skill or willingness to be thoughtful and considerate.
- There is more to success than just looking at results without understanding that at the end of the day it comes down to your consistency and the process involved in getting the job done.
- When you start focusing your attention and energy less on the results but rather on the processes or the techniques involved, you discover that you learn faster, are more successful and even happier at the outcome.
- Altogether you gain more in life when you focus on the process rather than the results.
- Write it down until you feel some of that tension ease up. It may even help you to think more clearly about the issues you're facing.
- Take a walk. A brief stroll can help distract you. It can also lower your blood pressure and boost your mood. You can also share your troubles with a confidante in a way that doesn't compromise the work environment.