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Confidence vs Arrogance: What Are the Differences?
Work on being more confident
- Back up your confidence with achievements.
- Listen more than you talk.
- Work on yourself.
- Affirm your sense of self-worth, and write down what you have achieved. This way, you’re in a much better place to educate others and share your experiences.
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Confidence vs Arrogance
- Confidence is closely related to self-assurance. A confident person knows what she/he is capable of and they doesn't need any external validation.
- Arrogance is closely related to selfishness. An arrogant person feels the need to brag and to exaggerate any achievement.
Arrogance: key characteristics
- Arrogant persons have an inflated and unrealistic sense of their importance and believe they know it all.
- An arrogant person will argue black is white, to prove their point.
- Arrogant people have zero interest in listening to others.
- You don't need ask an arrogant person about themselves, because every discussion will revolve around them.
Confidence and arrogance in relation to others
- Confidence brings people together; arrogance rejects people and is used as a means to demoralize others.
- Truly confident people don't feel to need to compare themselves to others - they’re happy being on their own unique path; arrogant people feel the need to shine over everybody else, often to the detriment of others.
- Leaders are almost always confident but bring humility and self-awareness to a team; arrogant people are usually oblivious to their negative traits and struggle to accept any form of constructive criticism.
Work on being more confident
- Back up your confidence with achievements.
- Listen more than you talk.
- Work on yourself.
- Affirm your sense of self-worth, and write down what you have achieved. This way, you’re in a much better place to educate others and share your experiences.
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- Even though it does take far more mental energy to work in this mode, the results can be quite staggering.
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Going from knower to curious learner
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If you have a goal of writing a book, and you focus on intensity, you may lock yourself away for thirty days, and write eight hours a day. It will require a huge block of dedicated time and lots of motivation.
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Steps you can use to employ consistency
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- Track your progress. Create a recurring task in your task manager to reinforce the habit.
- Enlist an accountability partner. It could be someone who wants to achieve the same goal, a coach, or just a friend who is willing to support you.