When we expect something positive and have a desire for something good, that very experience of want, or to covet, is in a way, a negative experience for us.
Referred to as the ‘Backwards Law’ by the modern philosopher Alan Watts, pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you lack the same right now.
Example: The more we want to be rich, the more we realize that we aren’t rich, and the feeling of lack and unworthiness comes to the surface, even if you are otherwise not poor at all.

The ‘Backwards Law’

Not being ambitious or aspirational is looked down upon to any normal person, but if the person is grateful, the life that is led is a happier, more fulfilled one.
Pain and failure, according to Mark Manson, provide us with positive results:
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<li>The hardships our body endures in a gym results in us getting into a better shape.</li>
<li>The failures in our career and business provide us with the necessary life lessons to be successful much beyond what we had hoped for.</li>
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The Interpretation Of The Truth

"“The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”"

"“If principles can become dated, they’re not principles.”"

According to Dale Carnegie, human beings are not rational or logical creatures but are highly emotional. 
We must then act according to our values, and not according to the fluctuating, vulnerable and unreliable emotions. One of the values can be deep gratitude.

Emotions Are Fluctuating

“The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.” wrote Mark Manson in his…

Emotions Are Fluctuating

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