The Subtle Power of Changing Your Identity
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Life has challenges, misery and struggles for everyone inhabiting this planet, and it is our choice to be happy or unhappy, because our behaviours, thoughts and attitude are what makes our condition good or bad.
By counting our blessings and focusing on the good things in life, instead of the one bad thing that has happened and is the center of attention, we choose to have power over the situation and stir life towards happiness, in spite of the circumstances.
We often have an urge to do things that have no productive value, but we still do them due to the forces of habit or when we cannot say no to others.An effective way to deal with such tasks is to delay them.
Whether it is snacking, playing a video game, browsing videos, or even smoking, one can delay the desire for doing the activity by keeping oneself intentionally busy.
While listening to others speak, a million thoughts come to our mind, about how we have handled similar situations, and how many mistakes the other person has made in what is being stated. We normally blurt out at the first chance and criticize the other person, or boast about our superhuman abilities.
A better way is to delay that, keeping quiet and simply listening to the other person, focusing on one's breath if needed.
While a majority of people struggle to find meaningful work, those who are fortunate enough to have it, have another challenge: Staying connected with that meaning.
It is easy to lose sight of the meaning and why we care about it, as we get stuck in the endless list of tasks. Even if we stay focused on our work, the never-ending tasks can make us lose track of our main objective.
The first and foremost step is to find a deep reason to do our work, which has to be beyond financial and obligatory reasons. If we don’t have a deep reason to work, it will feel meaningless and stressful for us. A deeper ‘why’ of our work provides us with inspiration and makes even challenging work stress-free.
Find a reason greater than yourself, like changing the world, helping people you care about, reducing pain in others, or to protect your loved ones, and even self-love.
As we get in the ‘doing’ mode we lose track of why something was important and meaningful to us in the first place.
Creating certain rituals that calm the mind and connect us to our basic nature can help, like a short meditation or simple prayer to remind us of our main motivation.