Know when you can safely say "no"
- Over one week, observe how you spend your time and energy. Keep note of how many times you say yes, no, or maybe to a request. Notice and record how each request made you feel.
- Identify the times you say no and everything still works out fine. This will help you to know how you can respond in the future.
- The requests that caused you anxiety: Ask yourself what the baggage behind it is. Does it remind you of old hurts and loss? The habit can also be a survival tactic to repress who you are.
Once you know where you can safely say no, try cutting back on saying yes.
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