How To Say No, For The People Pleaser Who Always Says Yes
Writing down your data helps you distinguish between when you feel excited to say yes to something and when it feels like an obligation.
Be intentional about saying yes. When you feel an urge to please, pause. It will buy you time to assess what’s really behind the question. Was it a request, demand, or just a suggestion? Knowing the answer will quiet your thoughts.
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“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.”
Use awkward pauses as a tool to say no. When a request comes to you (this works only in person), just pause for a moment. Count to three before delivering your verdict.
E-mail is also a good way to start practicing saying "no but" because it gives you the chance to draft and redraft your "no" to make it as graceful as possible. Plus, many people find that the distance of e-mail reduces the fear of awkwardness.
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