Do you want it – or do you need it? Here's how you know
What we desire, we may not really enjoy. The more you deprive people of something they want, the more they'll desire it, but if they do eventually get it, they'll value it less.
The concept of desire and enjoyment is receiving support from modern neuroscience. The two processes involve different circuits in the brain; dopamine is better understood as a desire-chemical and can be triggered in the near-total absence of pleasure.
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The rewards come so swiftly that this becomes a more appealing way to live.
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First voiced by Horace (the Roman poet) more than 2,000 years ago, it retains an e...
Carpe diem means different things to different people.
For some of us it may relate to taking a once in a lifetime opportunity, while for others it is about indulging in wild hedonism or living calmly in the present moment.