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Desire is separate from enjoyment

Desire  is separate from enjoyment

What we desire, we may not really enjoy. The more you deprive people of something they want, the more they'll desire it, but if they do eventually get it, they'll value it less.

The concept of desire and enjoyment is receiving support from modern neuroscience. The two processes involve different circuits in the brain; dopamine is better understood as a desire-chemical and can be triggered in the near-total absence of pleasure.

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