Remove "is" from your language

The 'to be' verbs like "she is, I am, they are" creates mental anguish because it reduces us to a single concept. X = Y  
"She is depressed"  or “I am a failure”.  
Accepting this language limits us to believe we are nothing more or less than the idea we identified ourselves with.

Change statements to produce different outcomes.
"She looks depressed" or, "I think I've failed."