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One way to calm an anxious mind: Notice when you’re doing OK

How to build well-being into your being

Sometimes you're really not all right. Maybe something terrible has happened, or your mind is upset.

Do what you can to ride out the storm. But as soon as possible, notice that the core of you is OK. Settling into this basic sense of okayness is a powerful way to build well-being into your being.

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