The Stress of Your Expectations vs. Reality
We tend to have many unrealistic expectations that are based on our highly critical comparison to other people, in order to lessen the disappointment we feel whenever we are let down we must remember to:
SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:
The tendency to over-expect the probability of good things happening while negating the likelihood of anything bad happening is a common human trait.
Studies consistently show that a large majority of the population (about 80% according to most estimates) display an overly optimistic outlook.
Pessimism, or having a bias towards a negative outcome, has a fan base too, as it seems that pessimists are immune to disappointment.
Their view of life already considers the worst possible outcome as the default one, and anything better than that can only improve it.
Losing something we already have is twice as much pain than gaining the same. This skewed feelings towards loss is known as loss aversion.
Expectations always dampen the feelings of happiness, always setting us up in advance for a dose of disappointment.