This language of affection is not inherently materialistic. It just means that your partner feels cherished and valued with a meaningful or thoughtful gift. After a long work week, something as easy as picking up a pint of their favorite ice cream will make a big difference.

Receiving Gifts

This love language is all about undivided attention. No televisions, no smartphones, or any other distractions.If this is your partner’s primary language, they don’t just want to be included during this period of time, they want to be the center of your attention. They want their partners to look at them and them only.

Quality Time

This language of love conveys love with words that build your partner up. Verbal compliments should not be complex.  <ul><li>"The dress looks great on you! </li><li>"You really make me laugh." </li><li>"Today, I love your hair." </li></ul>If your partner has this language of love, words mean a lot. You can go a long way with congratulations and "I love you". On the other hand, the partner will be upset by negative or offensive remarks and it may take them longer than most to forgive.

Words of Affirmation

Learning your partner’s and your own primary love language will help create a stronger bond in your relationship.<ol><li>Find your partner's love language</li><li>Write down a list of things you can do according to their language</li><li>Take action on a daily or weekly basis</li><li>Wait for at least a month to see results</li></ol>

Action Steps to find your Partner's Love Language

There are 5 love languages:<ul><li>Words of Affirmation (compliments, positive feedback)</li><li>Acts of Service (washing the dishes, doing the groceries)</li><li>Receiving Gifts (buying flowers, making a gift)</li><li>Quality Time (going for a walk, weekend trips)</li><li>Physical Touch (holding hands, cuddling)</li></ul>

The 5 Love Languages

If their motto is "Actions speak louder than words," your partner could have this language. By doing things that you know your partner would appreciate, this love language expresses itself. Acts of service include cooking a meal, doing the laundry, and picking up a prescription. They need some attention, time, and effort.

Acts of Service

To people with this language of affection, nothing is more impactful than their partner's physical contact. If your partner's primary love language is Physical Touch, they would feel unloved without physical contact. All of the words and gifts in the world won’t change that. Not only mentally, but physically, they want to feel you close by.

Physical Touch

Marriage should be based on love, right? But does it seem as though you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? #1 New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse's primary love language-quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. By learning the five love languages, you and your spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other. Chapters are categorized by love language for easy reference, and each one ends with simple steps to express a specific language to your spouse and guide your marriage in the right direction. A newly designed love languages assessment will help you understand and strengthen your relationship. You can build a lasting, loving marriage together. Gary Chapman hosts a nationally syndicated daily radio program called A Love Language Minute that can be heard on more than 150 radio stations as well as the weekly syndicated program Building Relationships with Gary Chapman, which can both be heard on fivelovelanguages.com. The Five Love Languages is a consistent New York Times bestseller - with over 5 million copies sold and translated into 38 languages. This book is a sales phenomenon, with each year outselling the prior for 16 years running!

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