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Understanding Financial Tension in Relationships
Financial Tensions In A Relationship
- Most couples have disagreements and difference of opinion with matters related to money, due to many factors.
- We live in a society where attaining financial security is a huge challenge, whereas financial success is placed on a high pedestal.
- Marriage has traditionally been based on various economic factors unrelated to love and companionship. Families, land, wealth and resources have always dominated the alliance.
- We have a complex relationship with money and carry a lot of baggage in our heads, old belief patterns and behaviours, which spill into the relationship.
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