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How to Be a More Patient Person
Identify Your Triggers
Most of us have heard of the ‘fight or flight’ response while we face a problem, obstacle or danger. Impatience is the ‘fight’ part of the same.
Our brains have a set of nervous tissue called the Amygdalae which is not nuanced enough to understand that all threats and dangers are not the same, not requiring the same (extreme) reaction. If one can bifurcate between true danger and less-serious threats, it is a good start to control your emotions.
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A Friend Indeed
According to a report in The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, an acquaintance has a chance of being your friend after about 50 hours of shared activity or discussions. A frien...
Benefits of Friendships
Long-lasting, high-quality friendships lower the chance of chronic illnesses, and mortality rates. They boost one’s happiness and can also be a buffer towards anxiety, stress and even depression.
One can consider looking back and reconnect with a lost but cherished friend for emotional support or to relive the long-forgotten times.
Considering Reviving A Friendship
- We need to ask ourselves if a certain friendship is even worth resuscitating, or if one of us has moved on to such an extent that we really don’t recognize the person any more.
- The circumstances of growing apart also matter. If it was betrayal or a falling out, the process of getting back may require reconciliation and may not be easy.
- People evolve due to the various life events that happen in the course of their lives, like medical issues, marriage, children or a divorce. It’s important to keep one’s guard up, as the person that one gets to meet after years might be a complete stranger in some ways.
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It is OK for you to have money
No matter how much money you have, there is a risk of social comparison. It can cause people with money to do less than they could.
Instead, it would help if you asked what meaning a life o...
What living well means to you
Most people start by listing the superficial trappings of living well - homes, cars, trips. But when people are allowed to think further, they realize they want those things with good friends, or good family relationships.
Considering what living well means guides your choices. It gets people to think about how they want to be involved in the world.
The No. 1 job you want money to do
Michael Liersch, head of advice and growth strategies at Wells Fargo Private Bank, points out three questions to ask:
- What is the No. 1 job you want money to do?
- Do you feel that you have enough?
- Who should be involved in these conversations?
These conversations set the stage to get answers and ideas to discuss.
The need to survive
When faced with dangerous situations that can actually put an end to our life, we tend to panic and, therefore, want to run. This is quite normal, taking into account the fact that our amygdala...
Choosing to flight
Dealing with difficult situations can make your life so much harder that at some point you might just decide to give up on your dreams and ambitions. However, it is exactly this behavior that leads to you eventually failing.
Choosing to run from responsibilities and challenges means choosing to stay always in your comfort zone, a fact that guarantees you no success whatsoever.
Keep fighting with your outcome in mind
Whenever you feel stressed or overwhelmed, just imagine a positive outcome to your challenging current situation. Soon enough, if you keep fighting for that outcome, it will become true.