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Most of us have heard of the ‘fight or flight’ response while we face a problem, obstacle or danger. Impatience is the ‘fight’ part of the same.
Our brains have a set of nervous tissue called the Amygdalae which is not nuanced enough to understand that all threats and dangers are not the same, not requiring the same (extreme) reaction. If one can bifurcate between true danger and less-serious threats, it is a good start to control your emotions.
We need to intercept the communication we do with ourselves and listen with an awareness of what we tell ourselves about a crisis situation.
If we are able to address this problem with awareness and interrupt the stress-response cycle, then we are free of the reactive ‘fight or flight’ mode.
Example: If waiting in a line is bothering you, be aware of this and tell yourself that this is essential and just a matter of a few minutes.
When faced with a bothersome situation, use the technique known as the cognitive reappraisal and reframe the unpleasantness of the circumstances with a larger sense of integrity and background, recalling how you may also have done the same in the past, or how this is helping you grow as a human being. _
Being integrated and poised makes you a zen-like figure while others who get annoyed reflexively seem like mere mortals._
One can game the system and not be in situations where there could be a fight or flight response. If you hate rush-hour traffic, avoid it with a vengeance. If you don’t like waiting in a waiting room play your favourite game on your smartphone during that time.
It is also a great idea to cut down on your coffee, and practice meditation and other relaxation techniques.
It is good to have achievable targets and not to overbook or overschedule your day in such a way that everything feels annoying, as that can lead to self-sabotage.
If a small inconvenience can make you aggravated, don’t have too much on your plate in the first place.
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