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Focusing Too Much On Your Goals

Obsessing over a certain goal means you're operating from a constant state of failure: you're failing to meet your own expectations. This can make you feel frustrated and miserable because you're not reaching the stage you desire to be at.

Having goals is essential, or else you would not know what kind of systems you need to create. But once you know what your goals are, focusing on them can be counterproductive.

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