Perception and experience

Perception and experience

Two people’s experiences of the same challenge differ wildly, beyond any desire, effort, and perseverance. But most of the messages we get about success (at school, at work,  in the media) minimize everything else. Nobody can ever tell you how hard or easy something should be for you. They don’t have enough information.

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With Lifelong Struggles, Effort Isn't What's Missing

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Coping with life struggles

When we struggle with something that most people don’t seem to struggle with, we start to think there's something wrong with us. And we tend to live in ways that avoid making our struggles obvious: we avoid the situations in which we feel like we don’t fit and that prevents us from ever learning what exactly is happening.

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Nobody can assess ease and difficulty objectively

We get to know the world and its challenges through a unique, personal experience, which nobody else can see, so nobody has a direct view of what’s easy or hard in the experience of others. We piece together what’s “normal” by observing how others, on the whole, seem to be doing at the same challenges.

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