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Six Powerful Quotes That Slapped Me Square in the Face

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"Don’t give in to your fears. If you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart."

Paulo Coelho

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The Sweet Spot: Where Technology Meets the Motivational Brain

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Nir's Note: This guest post is by Dr. Marc Lewis, who studies the psychology and neuroscience of addiction. After years of active research, Marc now talks, writes, and blogs about the science and experience of addiction and how people outgrow it. Visit his website here. You've just obliterated the last seven or eight zombies.

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Rewards and dopamine

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Our brains compute 3 things about reward: how much will we get, how soon will we get it, and how certain are we that we will in fact get it.

And it’s when the probability of a re...

Why video games are so addictive

Games are enticing because you might win but you might not. And video games do it so efficiently, because they ride the tide of computer technology. The balance between winning and losing is continuously adjusted, according to how well you’re doing, as measured in hits and misses, gains and losses, moment by moment. The sweet spot knows you, it finds you. It adjusts to you.

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The Myth of the Brainstorming Session

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Over dinner a couple months ago, one of my friends said he needed some help coming up with a name for a new website. He told me a bit about the site and asked if I could help think of something over dinner.

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The 2 goals of effective brainstorming:

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Defer judgment (don’t get upset when people say bad ideas).
Reach for quantity (come up with as many ideas as possible).

Obstacles to an effective brainstorming:

Fear of judgment from people in positions of power;
Extroverts take center stage;
Groups hate scary ideas, even it they're great ones;

Steps of the creative process

Preparation: individual study to focus your mind on the problem;
Incubation: the problem enters your unconscious mind and nothing appears to be happening externally;
Intimation: you get a “feeling” that a solution is on the way;
Illumination: your creative idea moves to conscious awareness;
Verification: your idea is consciously verified, expanded upon, and then executed.

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A Counterintuitive Way To Diffuse Difficult Situations

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One the best pieces of advice my mentor gave me many years ago was, "When you are in conflict with someone, don't push back." As a young professional, I was shocked and more than a little frustrated. What did that mean? What if I can't defend myself when someone says something wrong about me?

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Diffusing difficult situations

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Avoiding challenging conversations allows room for assumptions and continuing negative behavior.
Meet with the person to understand their concerns.
Listen

Your attitude is crucial

Regardless of whether you are right or wrong, your attitude will determine the outcome of any contentious experience. It’s incredibly important to have a peaceful state of mind before entering into a potential conflict situation.

Choose your words wisely

Stay away from starting sentences with “you."
Hear the other person out first. Don’t apologize, but acknowledge that there is a problem.
Ask questions for clarity, and be sure that you understand all the facts before you proceed with a resolution.
If you need to clear the a false accusation, do so concisely. You can say, “I would like to present information that may clear up this matter.”