People with a fixed mindset usually try to prove that they’re special. The problem is when special begins to mean better than others.People who believe in fixed traits feel an urgency to succeed, and when they do succeed, they feel and display a sense of superiority because their victory means that they (and their traits) are better than the rest of the people.

The fixed mindset and entitlement

"I don’t divide the world into the weak and the strong, or the successes and the failures... I divide the world into the learners and non-learners."

From the point of view of the fixed mindset, effort is only for people with deficiencies. Needing it casts a shadow on your ability.Effort also leaves you with no excuses. Without effort, you can always say, “I could have been ...” But once you try, you can’t say that anymore.

Effort is terrifying for the fixed mindset

People with a fixed mindset usually say the ideal partner would:<ul><li>Put them on a pedestal.</li><li>Make them feel perfect.</li><li>Worship them.</li></ul>People with the growth mindset hope their ideal partner is someone who would:<ul><li>See their faults and help them to work on them.</li><li>Challenge them to become a better person.</li><li>Encourage them to learn new things.</li></ul>

Mindsets in relationships

<ul><li>The growth mindset is the belief that abilities can be cultivated through effort. Everyone can change and grow through application and experience. </li><li>This is the mindset that allows people to succeed during challenging times.</li><li>People with a growth mindset seek challenge; the bigger the challenge, the more they stretch. For them, even geniuses have to work hard for their achievements.</li></ul>

The growth mindset

<ul><li>For the fixed mindset, failure is transformed from an action (I failed) to an identity (I am a failure). For people with this mindset, failure can define them in a permanent way. And they might try to repair their self-esteem by assigning blame or making excuses.</li><li>Failure can be a painful experience for the growth mindset too. But it doesn’t define people. It’s a problem to be faced, dealt with, and learned from.</li></ul>

Mindsets and failure

The growth mindset shows that people can change, but it doesn’t tell you how much change is possible or how long change will take.The growth mindset also doesn’t mean everything that can be changed should be changed. We all need to accept some of our imperfections, especially the ones that don’t really harm our lives or the lives of others.

The growth mindset and change

Mindsets are just beliefs; powerful ones, but they’re just something in your mind, and you can change them.Just by being aware of the two mindsets (fixed and growth), you can start thinking and reacting in different ways. It’s also important to realize that even if people have a fixed mindset, they’re not always in that mindset. Many people have elements of both.

Mindsets are powerful beliefs

<ul><li>Having a fixed mindset means believing that your qualities are carved in stone. This creates an urgency to prove yourself all the time.</li><li>People with a fixed mindset expect ability to show up on its own before any learning takes place. </li><li>Some of us are formed in this mindset from childhood. As soon as children become able to assess themselves, some of them become afraid of challenges. They become afraid of not being smart.</li></ul>

The fixed mindset

<ul><li>The fixed mindset says that tests or experts can tell us what our potential is, what we’re capable of, what our future will be: you can simply measure the fixed ability right now and project it into the future.</li><li>The idea that one evaluation can measure you forever is what creates urgency for those with a fixed mindset: they must succeed perfectly and immediately.</li><li>But many of the most accomplished people of our era were considered by experts to have no future.</li></ul>

Having "potential"

<ul><li>For the rest of your life, seek constructive criticism, even when you're tempted to create a world in which you're perfect.</li><li>Is there something in your past that you think measured you? A test score, being fired from a job or being rejected? Focus on that thing and feel all the emotions that go with it.</li><li>Look honestly at your role in it, but understand that it doesn’t define your intelligence or personality.</li><li>Next time you feel low, put yourself in a growth mindset: think about learning, challenge, confronting obstacles.</li><li>See effort as something positive.</li></ul>

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From the renowned psychologist who introduced the world to “growth mindset” comes this updated edition of the million-copy bestseller—featuring transformative insights into redefining success, building lifelong resilience, and supercharging self-improvement. “Through clever research studies and engaging writing, Dweck illuminates how our beliefs about our capabilities exert tremendous influence on how we learn and which paths we take in life.”—Bill Gates, GatesNotes “It’s not always the people who start out the smartest who end up the smartest.” After decades of research, world-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., discovered a simple but groundbreaking idea: the power of mindset. In this brilliant book, she shows how success in school, work, sports, the arts, and almost every area of human endeavor can be dramatically influenced by how we think about our talents and abilities. People with a fixed mindset—those who believe that abilities are fixed—are less likely to flourish than those with a growth mindset—those who believe that abilities can be developed. Mindset reveals how great parents, teachers, managers, and athletes can put this idea to use to foster outstanding accomplishment. In this edition, Dweck offers new insights into her now famous and broadly embraced concept. She introduces a phenomenon she calls false growth mindset and guides people toward adopting a deeper, truer growth mindset. She also expands the mindset concept beyond the individual, applying it to the cultures of groups and organizations. With the right mindset, you can motivate those you lead, teach, and love—to transform their lives and your own.

Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., is one of the world’s leading researchers in the field of motivation and is the Lewis and Virginia Eaton Professor of Psychology at Stanford University. Her research has focused on why people succeed and how to foster success. She has held professorships at Columbia and Harvard Universities, has lectured all over the world, and has been elected to the American Academy of Arts and Sciences. Her scholarly book Self-Theories: Their Role in Motivation, Personality, and Development was named Book of the Year by the World Education Federation. Her work has been featured in such publications as The New Yorker, Time, The New York Times, The Washington Post, and The Boston Globe, and she has appeared on Today and 20/20.

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