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How to Ditch the Drama in Your Relationships
Constructive Roles In The Relationship
- Victims can become creators who do not succumb to the temptation to wallow in the unfairness of it all. Let us be outcome-oriented instead of being problem-oriented.
- Persecutors can become challengers who urges the victims to clarify their needs and focus on their own learning and personal growth.
- Rescuers can become coaches who sees the victims being able to make their own choices and who can solve their own problems. They help the creators see the possibilities for positive action.
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When We Focus On Other People
More often than not, we are trying to correct or direct things in other people’s relationships.
By focussing on other people’s associations, we end up directing how other p...
Directing Yourself
Instead of giving ready-made advice (which often sounds curt) to others on how they should manage a relationship, it is a better idea to direct yourself in your relationships, and lead by example.
When you become a better parent, partner, son or daughter, and focus on mending your own relationship with those around you, the positive effect starts to happen. The action of self-direction (towards improving yourself in the matters of relationships) is more potent than your lectures on your loved ones.
Strengthening Your Relations
When you put your energies back towards what you can control, that is You, everyone benefits. We end up relating more openly with others and share our thoughts in a healthy manner, rather than giving unwanted advice.
We are only responsible for our own maturity.
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Change and the unchangeable
Meaning and relationships
- We generate meaning through relationships. And meaning is the fuel of our minds.
- Our relationships also define our understanding of ourselves. And when one of these relationships is destroyed, that part of our identity is destroyed along with it.
Depression vs. sadness
- Sadness occurs when something feels bad.
- Depression occurs when something feels meaningless.
When something feels bad, at least it has meaning. In depression, everything becomes a big blank void.
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Living With Uncertainty
Humans want to be certain about the future, as our mind perceives uncertainty and ambiguity as a problem. Our resistance to uncertainty is a cause of anxiety and worry.
We have to learn to ...
Do Not Resist Uncertainty
Resisting uncertainty makes it persist. Self-acceptance is a paradoxical secret to happiness.
Acceptance means meeting life where it stands, surrendering ourselves to a problem, and not being frustrated or disappointed about it. To resign is different from accepting, as acceptance can make us move forward and reach our goals.
Investing In Yourself
Self care is not a selfish thing to do. You being at your very best is good for you and for your family, friends, and loved ones, who always want you at your best.
If we do not invest in our bodies, our minds, and our spirit, we are doing injustice to ourselves, and also sabotaging our family, who may be dependent on us. It’s not hard to maintain yourself so that you get enough sleep and exercise.