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Not Being Enough And Not Having Enough
- Not Having Enough: Part of the mindset of hoarding the good stuff comes from the previous generations that had to stock up due to war or scarcity.
- Not Being Enough: We gather stuff to be someone we think we are not, promising ourselves that we will wear the clothing/jewellery or accessory item we are buying, someday.
The problem is someday isn’t coming to anyone, as life can change in an instant, leaving the scented candles and the special dress in the closet forever.
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Hoarding: A Short-Term Buzz
We like to accumulate stuff as we believe it makes us (or others) happier, though it is just a short-term feeling. Most of us do not realize the fickleness and subjectivity of the value of the hoar...
Do’s And Don’ts For Hoarders
- Don’t beat around the bush for the real reason that an object is bought: It brings joy.
- Don’t think you can get rid of everything overnight, becoming a minimalist.
- Try to follow the ‘Use It Or Lose It’ philosophy. If you don’t lose what you don’t need, you end up losing your time, money, space, relationships and opportunities.
Starting The Decluttering Process
- Start clearing out your garage, closets and other spaces in instalments, like for 15 to 20 minutes per day, five days a week.
- Try not to be too serious, or you end up having a family feud due to the chaos or disagreements over what to keep and what to let go.
- Donate as much as you can.
- Only keep those old photographs which are of people you remember by name.
The heart and love - Ancient Greeks
In ancient Greek, lyric poetry identified the heart with love.
Greek philosophers agreed that the heart was linked to our strongest emotions, including love. Plato thought the heart was re...
The ancient Roman belief about the heart
The ancient Romans believed there was a vein extending from the fourth finger of the left hand directly to the heart.
In the medieval period in Salisbury, England, the groom was told to place a ring on the bride's fourth finger during a marriage ceremony, because of that vein.
The heart symbol in the feudal courts of Europe
During the 12th and 13th centuries, minstrels in France celebrated a form of love that we call today courtly love. The troubadour was to pledge his whole heart to only one woman and promise to be true to her forever. He'd sing to her and the members of the court to which she belonged.
During this time, artists depicted love between a couple as a fanciful tree that rises to form the outline of a heart. It carries within it a coat of arms bearing the Latin word AMOR (love).
The Desire to Look Good
The basic human desire to look good gets in the way of active listening and speaking towards your audience.
It can be deflating to be with people who act like they know everything and are ...
The Need to Be Right
Compelling the other person to be wrong is a terrible trait to have and can be extremely destructive in relationships. This need usually stems from the fear of being disrespected or from the fear of being seen for who you are, a flawed person that makes mistakes and is imperfect just like everyone else.
This behavior brings forth behavior that may cause anger and resentment to arise, interruption. The interrupter doesn't listen and exerts dominance while the interrupted feels belittled.
People Pleasing
People who are driven by pleasing people are neither honest or authentic because they may say yes to things they don't really want to do just because they do not want to disagree because of the fear of being disliked.
If you find yourself to be a people-pleaser, rethink your values and ask yourself these:
- What do I stand for?
- What is most important to me in life?
- What is not negotiable?
When you have your core values clear, you won't be easily shaken by other's opinions or needs.