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Which of these habits is keeping you from being a great communicator? |
The Need to Be Right
Compelling the other person to be wrong is a terrible trait to have and can be extremely destructive in relationships. This need usually stems from the fear of being disrespected or from the fear of being seen for who you are, a flawed person that makes mistakes and is imperfect just like everyone else.
This behavior brings forth behavior that may cause anger and resentment to arise, interruption. The interrupter doesn't listen and exerts dominance while the interrupted feels belittled.
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- Donate as much as you can.
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Mindful listening
This constant, low-grade sense of urgency can impede genuine communication.
Mindful listening - focused attention to what another person is saying, without judging or ...
Hear between the words
When you’re in conversation, set your mind to being present, receptive, and ready to listen with compassion.
Bring yourself into the moment with a few deep breaths and ask yourself: What is this person communicating beyond the words they use?