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What the Receiving Gifts Love Language Means for a Relationship

Chapman’s Five Love Languages

Chapman’s Five Love Languages

Author Gary Chapman developed the theory that there are five basic ways romantic partners give and receive love.

The five love languages are:

  1. Physical touch
  2. Quality time
  3. Acts of service, such as cooking a meal or cleaning the car.
  4. Words of affirmation, such as verbal praise, compliments, and expressions of love.
  5. Gift-giving ranging from small tokens to surprise deliveries.

The majority of us have one or two dominant love languages, but each of us speaks all five languages to some degree. By learning how to 'speak' each other's preferred love language, you're ensuring both of you feel supported and seen.

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