When it comes to getting things done, options aren’t always a good thing. When everything is a possibility, it actually becomes harder to make the right choice (or any choice at all). Meanwhile, when we place a constraint on ourselves, it can become much easier to get something done.
Subjectiveness : “This is the way it looks to ME.” Bluntness : “That’s a stupid idea!” Resistance: “This is the way we’ve always done it.” Single-mindedness : “It’s my goal and nothing else matters.” Unreasonable risk-taking : “I’m going to jump; won’t you come with me?”
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for.