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The Case for Asking Sensitive Questions
Avoiding sensitive questions comes at a cost
Asking sensitive questions can help build stronger relationships. However, we should know how to seek useful information while minimising the discomfort we feel.
We often avoid asking questions that feel too sensitive or personal. But, when negotiating a salary or finding a place to stay, knowing how much a coworker earns or how much a friend pays in rent can be very useful.
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