Listening rarely happens during a submissive state. Instead, the listener is waiting for a pause to interject a rebuttal to defend against a verbal attack.
Once we know how shouting is perceived, we must be careful to regulate our voice to a volume and tone that does not come over as aggressive or dominant.
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Most of the meaning of your spoken words comes from the tone of your voice, not from the words.
Suppose you are the type of person who automatically raises your voice to become the dominant speaker. In that case, you may be damaging your ability to be a better communicator and secure cooperation.
Increasing your voice creates stress and tension that often escalates into an argument or physical confrontation.
Yelling is a method used to control a situation by dominating the other person. When we get loud, the other person is forced into submission. In turn, it tells them to comply, or there will be punishing consequences.
The worst-case scenario thinking is troublesome because it causes the very problem we're trying to prevent - an unpleasant or difficult situation.
How often does a negative thought turn into catastrophic thinking? A spot on your face becomes a cancerous tumour. Your child not attending a specific school spirals into him not getting a good job. From just entertaining an idea, it quickly turns into a worst-case scenario.
Grief comes in many forms and everyone has experienced it in many different ways, but this model theory is only a reference, not a rule. The five stages of grief are:
The five stages of grief were once known as the five stages of death, however, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, the Swiss American psychiatrist that invented this theory extended her model to many different kinds of losses.