Avoidance leads to feeling overwhelmed

We often spend our days doing everything but that difficult thing we're dreading to do.

This happens because we're trying to protect ourselves from uncertainty. We don’t want to feel like we don’t know what we’re doing, to look stupid or to to feel overwhelmed.

There is something powerful when we name the feeling of grief. It helps us feel what's inside. You don't have to tell yourself that you feel sad but shouldn't feel sad. Just feel sad for a few minutes.

If we allow the feelings to happen, they'll happen in an orderly way, and this em...

Worry briefly feels good, especially compared to the alternative—doing nothing and just feeling afraid. Worry feels good because it gives us something (rather than nothing) to do. And this makes us feel a little less helpless and out of control.

We may not...