Why We Keep Thinking About Regret

Let go of the ideals, and embrace reality.

• The choice we made in the past is done, and we can’t change it. Some choices will be great, some won’t be perfect.
• Making a bad choice isn’t in conflict with our realistic, not fixed self-identity. It’s a part of it...

• Blame is a good defense mechanism and protects your self-esteem by avoiding awareness of your own failings.
• Blame is a tool of attack that can hurt others and a destructive conflict resolution method.
• We’re bad at analyzing people's behavior, or even our own. The attributions...

Here a few reasons why we reject positivity:

1. We see it as naive.

2. We're constantly reinforcing our subconscious belief in the negative.

3. We are more inherently fascinated by the negative in the world because we do not understand it.

Because we do not understand t...