MORE IDEAS FROM Triggers
Now, how do we make triggers work for us?
Because our environmental factors are so often outside of our control, we may htink there is not much we can do about them, but fate is the hand of cards we've been dealt and Choice is how we play the hand.
If your motivation for a task or goal is in any way compromised (because you lack the skil, or don't take it seriously, or think that you've done so far is good enough) don't take it on. Find something else to show the world how much you care, not how little.
We understand how much sleep we need, so why don't we do what we know it's good for us?
We put off going to bed at the intended time because we preffer to remain in our current environment playing videogames or warching tv, rather than move to a calm and boring place like the bedroom.
Getting a good night of sleep it's not something we deserve but rather something we must earn by developing better habits. We need to turn off the cellphone and turn in for the night.
That's all I needed to hear. He had done his private risk-reward analysis. He wasn't being a troll. In his mind he was doing good - and enjoying it.
"Our phone chrips, and we plance at the glowing screen instead of looking into the eyes of the person we love."
We feel regret's sharp sting when we reflect on the opportunities squandered, the choices deferred, the efforts not made, the talants never developed in our lives. Usually when its too late to do much about it.
If we do our job properly two things will happen:
They can be encouraging or discouraging
Encouraging push us to maintain or expand what we are doing while the discouraging does the opposite.
They can be Productive or Counteproductive
This is the most important distinction. Productive triggers push us towar becoming the person we want to be. Counterproductive triggers pull us away.
This expresses the timeless question between what we want and what we need. We want short therm gratification while we need long therm benefit.
If you're falling short on your goal, this simple excercise will tell you why. You're getting too much of what you want, not enough of what you need.
We face three problems in introducing change into our lives:
Am i willing
At this time
To make the investment required
To make a positive diffecence
On this topic?
According to a recent survey of U.S. workers, only 20% report being truly passionate about work.
Most youngsters place pursuing their passion as an important goal for their future jobs. But many working people fail to pursue their passion because they didn't know how to do so.
Some people will pursue multiple relationships simultaneously because of a fear of abandonment.
They want to have a backup relationship in case something goes wrong, but in doing so, they are putting their relationship at risk, living a lie, and not dealing with their fear of abandonment in a healthy way.