The Secure Attachment Style
It’s likely your primary caretaker was able to stay engaged with you as an infant and effectively manage their own stress as well as calm and soothe you when you were distressed. Having a secure attachment style might look like this:
- You’re able to be yourself in an intimate relationship.
- You’re comfortable expressing your feelings and needs.
- You’re able to maintain your emotional balance and seek healthy ways to manage conflict.
- When faced with setbacks you’re resilient enough to bounce back.
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