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The Reinforcing Trap: Breaking The Pattern

In situations as such where nagging becomes constant and it's unbearable to stand, Harriet Lerner, suggests that the overfunctioner needs to take a step back and do less.

The overfunctioner should potentially allow bad things to happen. This is called the "hanging in" method.

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The Reinforcing Trap

The relationship between an overfunctioner and an underfunctioner translates into dangerously reinforcing each other's habits: The overfunctioner takes on more than their fair share of responsibility from housework to finances while only reinforcing the underfunctioner's depe...

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Overfunctioner vs. Underfunctioner

Overfunctioner vs. Underfunctioner

When faced with challenges which of the two sounds more like you?

  • You switch into fixing mode. You like taking control of things, make to-do lists and finish the tasks in the lists as soon as possible, and you like giving out advice; or

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