The Reinforcing Trap: Breaking The Pattern
In situations as such where nagging becomes constant and it's unbearable to stand, Harriet Lerner, suggests that the overfunctioner needs to take a step back and do less.
The overfunctioner should potentially allow bad things to happen. This is called the "hanging in" method.
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