A rough childhood does not condemn you to an unhappy life
Many people grow up with unreliable and untrustworthy people around them. This has made them develop traits and characteristics which could have been prevented had they received proper care and guidance.
Regardless, our childhood experiences do not determine the quality of our adult lives. From an earned secure attachment—a secure attachment style that comes from our positive experiences later in life—we are able to have securely attached relationships and friendships.
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Your social relationships are actually a strong predictor of the quality of life, both psychological and physical. Invest in your relationships; material possessions don't generally bring lasting happiness.
Your intimate and platonic relationships need to be nurtured with love and care in order for them to thrive and produce healthy relationship habits. With good social relations, we end up happier, less stressed, more resilient to pain, and lowered cognitive decline.
We all have baggage we carry around, big or small. However, just because we do does not mean that we are incapable of finding and being in lovingly sustainable relationships and friendships.
We are imperfect beings thus we must find a good group of people that celebrates our strengths and tolerates our vulnerabilities—to some, endearing. Sure, personal healing and growth can and will improve our relationships and overall quality of life, but we can also do that activity within relationships.
Whatever your specific relationship problems, it’s important to know that your brain remains capable of change throughout life.
By identifying your attachment style, you can learn to challenge your insecurities, develop a more securely attached way of relating to others, and build stronger, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships.
We are social beings and we need to create intimacy with other people, for the well-being of our body, mind, and heart.
Close friendships regulate our emotional distress because in difficult times, being close to someone you feel attachment in a safe way is the most effective way to calm yourself.
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