Psychologist Perpetua Neo explains that: emotions shouldn't be so fear inducing. They exist for a reason. Infact, she calls them our "first intel in a war", beacuse they often a sign that something is wrong and needs fixing.
You can learn to let in your emotions and use them to identify changes that need to be made in your life.
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Do you find yourself mindlessly scrolling through instagram or guilty binge watching netflix? The tell-tale sign of suppressing your emotions is avoidance. You engage in self-destructive behaviors like drinking or smoking.
You try to escape by-
In order to avoid thinking about how you feel.
Maybe you are at a mall with your friend and everyone is having fun, but you feel as if you are observing the fun, rather than fully engaging in it and feel distant. You may also find intimacy difficult and have only a few close friends.
By bottling up your emotions you distance yourself from how you feel. It makes not only anger and sadness hard to express but also expressing happiness and joy.
If you suppress yourself you might think that crying or screaming is embarrassing or bad, but more subtly you'll just feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people who visibly express their emotions.
You might struggle with how to react or how to offer comfort to them in their time of distress, especially if emotions hold a sort if stigma and pain for you especially.
Have you ever put dry ice into the bottle? As the dry ice turns into gas the bottle gradually expands with pressure until it explodes. Bottling dry ice is exctly like bottling up your emotions, there's a time limit before the metaphorical bottle explodes and it can be hard to release the pressure.
The first step in properly processsing your emotions is to recognise that you are closing yourself from them, so here are six signs that you are bottling up your emotions.
Bottling up your emotions can create a divide between who you think you are and how others see you. You might feel exhausted, anxious or jaded in private ,but your friends might see you as confident and calm.
If you avoid expressing yourself you might feel like you have two separate faces and that no one truely knows you, perhaps you're not sure yourself who you are.
Perhaps you feel powerless over your own life. You're unable to think deeply about your emotions nor can you talk to others about they make you upset. Even if you bottle your emotions, you can still feel angry and sad, but instead of finding the cause of the negativity , you numb yourself to the pain.
You fear any sort of confrontation and you avoid your emotions just like you avoid emotional people
If find your blood boiling with overwhelming anger over insignificant issues, your outburst over this relatively minor issue can be a sign of deeper more suppressed trouble in you relationship or personal life. Bottling up your emotions can actually make them more powerful.
Learning how to better read someone else's body language can go a long way in helping you understand what someone is thinking.
1. What makes you truly happy? (What are you most passionate about? Whose company do you enjoy ?)
2. What are your core values? (Principles that give your life meaning. What ideas, principles, and virtues do you value the most?)
3. How do you handle stress? (Are you calm under pressure? Do you feel anxious?)
4. How is your physical health? (Improved physical health helps you avoid serious illnesses in the future)
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