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The way we answer can encourage trust and information sharing.
It's about choosing the right balance between privacy & transparency - decide 'before' a conversation what information is to be shared & what kept private.
Asking questions improves our emotional intelligence (EI) and with improved EI we become better questioners - it's a virtuous cycle.
“Ask questions the other person will enjoy answering.” - Dale Carnegie
Research over the past 50 years suggests people have conversations to accomplish some combination of two major goals:
Recent research shows asking questions achieves both.
Asking a lot of questions (lots but not too many) unlocks learning and improves interpersonal bonding.
Asking sensitive questions can help build stronger relationships. However, we should know how to seek useful information while minimising the discomfort we feel.
We often avoid asking questions that feel too sensitive or personal. But, when negotiating a salary or finding a place to stay, knowing how much a coworker earns or how much a friend pays in rent can be very useful.
Inexperienced questions such as "I'm thinking about [action]. What do you think?" are seldom answered because answering would take too much effort.
This is because naive questions lack the necessary context while failing to respect the recipient's time, energy and attention. Instead, it transfers responsibility for the end result from the questioner to the recipient. If you want helpful answers, it is worthwhile to learn to ask better questions.
Asking good, effective questions is a powerful but little known tool to get the most helpful information, facilitate learning and improve interpersonal bonding.
In many cases, asking the right questions depends on complex dynamics and type of interaction, but there are some general guidelines that can commonly be applied to the conversation.
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