MORE IDEAS FROM THE BOOK
Pursue Higher Values, like - gratitude, service, truthfulness, and compassion, which will bring -
Avoid Lower values, like - greed, lust, anger, and envy, which will bring -
You can follow the 3 simple rule to improve your morning routine -
The people who have a negative mindset, are those who always complain, blame, criticize, give pressure, give orders, and compares. Try to avoid them, although it is not possible to avoid everyone. But you can try these methods -
Having the wrong intention for the right thing can lead us down the wrong path.
You need to stop and think about why you are doing something. Do not let external factors drive your internal happiness. Allowing external factors to drive your happiness means you are putting your happiness in somebody else’s hands.
Our true identity is just like a mirror covered in dust of the influence of others. Shetty explains that cleaning your mirror will not be a pleasant experience. Only once you have removed the dust obscuring your mirror can you see your true reflection - who you truly are.
Know the difference between attachment and detachment -
The problem with attachment is that we think we know the best way.
"We seek to leave a place cleaner than we found it, people, happier than we found them, the world better than we found it."
The heart of all challenges in relationships is diagnosing what we are asking for and what we need. Most of us are asking for something from relationships that we don’t actually need. The most common thing that people want from their partner is time.
When loved ones are asking for your time they are asking for these characteristics-
They want something deeper than just spending time with them. Try to be present at the moment by avoiding digital and thought distractions. Ensure you are paying full attention to the other individual and what they are saying. Finally, put time aside to enjoy the company of your loved ones alone. Intimate conversations are where you can both be yourselves.
"Our identity is wrapped up in what others think of us—or, more accurately, what we think others think of us."
Our minds influence our values. We are not our minds, but our mind is a vehicle for deciding what is important to us.
Your mind is fed by the movies you watch, the music you hear, the books you read, the TV shows you binge, and the people you follow online and offline. The more you are absorbed by negative sources, including troubling news and gossip, the more your values are tainted with envy, judgment, competition, and discontent.
Learn to encourage a culture of compassion, specifically self-compassion and self-forgiveness. Instead of beating yourself up about your mistakes, try to build the muscles to help you be resilient. If you feed your resilience effectively, then you will be happy irrespective of what life brings you.
You need to put on your protective shield. You should not walk onto the battlefield of life without doing your training and shielding.
To remove inner negativity use 3S -
"Living intentionally means stepping back from external goals, letting go of outward definitions of success, and looking within."
"When we tune out the opinions, expectations, and obligations of the world around us, we begin to hear ourselves."
"You can’t be anything you want. But you can be everything you are."
"Anyone can find the dirt in someone. Be the one that finds the gold."
"Be honest about what your intention is. The worst thing you can do is pretend to yourself that you’re acting out of service when all you want is material success."
Have strong values and principles (dharma) in your life. You protect your dharma and your dharma will protect you. We can have multi-faceted principles and it is okay if they overlap each other. Often times, we may find ourselves being distracted or diverted away from our dharma. Jay Shetty asks us to aware and then shift our focus back to our original principles.
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