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Sandwich the no between two yeses

Sandwich the no between two yeses

This technique could be used to explain your commitments and to ask for another way to contribute.

To illustrate, here is an example:

Scenario: Your boss asks you to work on the weekend, but you have family commitments you cannot break.

Yes: Explain your commitments to your boss.
No: Explain how that prevents you from coming in on the weekend.
Yes: Ask other ways you could help without working on weekends.

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Be prepared to repeat yourself

Be firm. In some cases, you may have to repeat yourself more than once. If you offered any explanation with your original response, you can repeat this explanation or just say no again. Don't back yourself into a corner by trying to explain yourself further. It is your right to say no to any request, and you'll often need to be firm in order to have your intentions understood.

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Make sure you’re actually saying “no”

Do not beat around the bust explaining and making excuses or don't give false hopes that you could. Don't waste each others' time, if you want to say no, just say no.

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Saying no is a major challenge for people

The more difficulty you have saying no, the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout, and even depression - 3 things that hinder your emotional intelligence.

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Find your yes

Before you can become good at saying no, you have to know what you're saying yes to when you're saying no. Every opportunity that you pass with a no is really saying yes to something else. 

And if you feel like saying yes, ask for time to think about it before providing an answer. It's going to be much easier to say no once you've had time to considerall of your commitments and whether the item in question is a realistic addition to your schedule.

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The Art of Saying No (Gracefully)

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments—you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

That’s why the art of saying no can be a game changer for productivity.

Requests for your time are coming in all the time—from family members, friends, children, coworkers, etc.

To stay productive, minimize stress, and avoid wasting time, you have to learn the gentle art of saying no —an art that many people have problems with.

However, it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship.

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  • The Indirect “No."Say no without feeling uncomfortable by explaining the reasons why you can't.
  • The “Let me get back to you.”Buy yourself time to think if you could do it and come up of a way to say no.
  • The Conditional “Yes.”With this conditional yes, we force people to prioritize. It shows that you have other things on your plate.
  • The Direct “No.”When you have mastered saying no, you stop giving excuses and start to say no firmly. Practice makes perfect.

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It seems that Silicon Valley decided that internet connectivity matters more than human connectivity. After all, if it worked for a genius like Jobs, can it be that bad? 

But research reveals that it can have a devastating impact: While this management style might work in the short-term, employees can't flourish for long under a narcissistic, demanding boss.

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