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The Art of Saying No

https://www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2013/03/11/the-art-of-saying-no/

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The Art of Saying No
John Galbraith's housekeeper was a whiz when it came to saying no. One day in 1965 the noted economist was taking a nap when President Lyndon Johnson called his home. "He's taking a nap and has left strict orders not to be disturbed," his housekeeper told the President. Johnson replied, "Well, [...]

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Saying no is a major challenge for people

Saying no is a major challenge for people

The more difficulty you have saying no, the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout, and even depression - 3 things that hinder your emotional intelligence.

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Find your yes

Find your yes

Before you can become good at saying no, you have to know what you're saying yes to when you're saying no. Every opportunity that you pass with a no is really saying yes to something else. 

And if you feel like saying yes, ask for time to think about it before providing an answer. It's going to be much easier to say no once you've had time to considerall of your commitments and whether the item in question is a realistic addition to your schedule.

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Sandwich the no between two yeses

Sandwich the no between two yeses

This technique could be used to explain your commitments and to ask for another way to contribute.

To illustrate, here is an example:

Scenario: Your boss asks you to work on the weekend, but you have family commitments you cannot break.

Yes: Explain your commitments to your boss.
No: Explain how that prevents you from coming in on the weekend.
Yes: Ask other ways you could help without working on weekends.

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Make sure you’re actually saying “no”

Make sure you’re actually saying “no”

Do not beat around the bust explaining and making excuses or don't give false hopes that you could. Don't waste each others' time, if you want to say no, just say no.

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Be prepared to repeat yourself

Be prepared to repeat yourself

Be firm. In some cases, you may have to repeat yourself more than once. If you offered any explanation with your original response, you can repeat this explanation or just say no again. Don't back yourself into a corner by trying to explain yourself further. It is your right to say no to any request, and you'll often need to be firm in order to have your intentions understood.

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  3. Propose an alternative way on helping that person.

Decisions Using Our Instinct

Decisions Using Our Instinct

Business leaders often make important decisions that defy any logical analysis. This process may be termed as a gut instinct, a hunch, or an inner voice.

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Patterns In Randomness

Our gut instinct or intuition can come in many forms, like detecting patterns in places where other people only see randomness or having a sudden flash of brilliance which goes against the grain but feels right.

Gathering enough data to make a rational decision also takes up a lot of time, and in today's fast-paced world, by the time one procures all data, the decision becomes antiquated.

Subconscious And Conscious Brain

Our subconsious mind continuously processes information, even when we sleep, which our conscious mind finally learns or infers, lighting a bulb inside us.

We know the gut feeling is true because our 'right brain'(intuition and emotion-based) already knew the revelation that our left brain (logic and consciousness-based) now has come to know.

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Meaning is the associations that our minds draw

Our brains invent it as a way to explain all the crazy shit that is going on in the world around us. This helps us predict and control our lives.

Types of Meaning in Life

1. Cause/Effect Meaning primarily involves the logical parts of our brain: You kick the ball, the ball moves.
2. Better/Worse Meaning has to do with the nature of our values and relies mostly on the emotional parts of our brains: Eating is better than starving.

Meaning is nature’s tool for motivation

It’s how evolution made sure we got shit done. When there is great meaning attached to something, we will go to insane lengths to make things right.