Sometimes when another person has suffered a terrible experience, people make the mistake of blaming the victim for their circumstances.
This is the reason why victims of crimes are often asked what they might have done differently to prevent the crime.
This tendency stems from the need to believe that the world is a fair and just place. People want to believe that people get what they deserve and deserve what they get—it fools them into thinking that such terrible things could never happen to them.
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