Embarrassing situations: Make a list of what you're worried about

If a moment that makes you feel embarrassed is an objective fact, ask yourself if it is a big deal.

• If you spilt your drink on someone, was real harm done? Maybe the person laughed it off and was nice to you the rest of the time. *Forgive yourself and let it go.

If you made a fool out of yourself and real harm was done, plan to follow up with the person involved.

Be prepared to make amends. For example, "I feel bad about spilling my drink on your dress, and I'd love to have it dry cleaned for you." You'll come across as having good interpersonal s...

When you’re making an important decision, create a list of pros and cons. This list makes you dig down deep.

It can also help to share your list with someone else or ask a friend or partner to help brainstorm more pros and cons. This list gives you the clarity you need to m...