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Don't keep score

Don't keep score

"I moved here for you..."

This is an age-old argument that makes relationships fall into black holes. Although there may be truth to it, keeping scores with your partner with who has done what for who will only end badly.

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Remember that you did this for you both, not just for them

Remember that you did this for you both, not just for them

You moved into that country in order to be with the person you love.

Having the occasional resentment or annoyance about uprooting your life doesn't make you a bad person, however, harboring it and keeping it all in without trying to communicate it to your partner kindly, will only lead to...

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Moving abroad for love: Keep an open mind

It's important to keep an open mind about the whole move because the future and your feelings towards each other aren't guaranteed in stone.

Change is difficult for some people but allow yourself to settle in and let positive energy flow so that you'll be more open to adapt.

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Think about their feelings too

As strange, you also have to consider how this whole moving thing will be for your partner.

You'll be too busy trying to settle and adjust for yourself that you might forget how this is affecting them.

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Be honest and make mutual decisions

Every big decision you make needs to be mutual and where you both don't have any hidden feelings about it.

Disagreement on trivial things is normal but decisions about housing, cars, visa applications are things where you both need to be completely honest and willing to compromise over.

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Never harbor resentment

Never harbor resentment

Having to learn a new language, leave your job, your friends, and family behind is totally valid to feel frustrated over. However, you can't use this same excuse over and over again whenever a problem pops up between you and your partner.

It's completely unfair to your relationshi...

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