7. Angry at someone? take the 'third person' perspective

Ultimately the benefits of self-awareness are to serve not only you in emotional manegment, but also serve your relationships.

If you catch yourself raising your voice, you may feel justified due to being upset. However, for the person with you (second person), the experience will be quite different.

• trying to imagine yourself in that person's place will improve your self-awareness, reduce defensiveness, and quite possibly improve your relationship with that person as well.
• Third person is particularly effective for people who are overly self-critical or who trend to be self-destructive.