The Spotlight Effect
It refers to our tendency to overestimate how much other people notice about us: we tend to think there is a spotlight on us, highlighting all of our mistakes or flaws, for all the world to see.
The spotlight effect is the result of egocentrism: we see our entire existence from our own experiences and perspective. And we use those experiences to evaluate the world around us, including other people.
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Bringing awareness, or mindfulness, to the way we communicate with others has both practical and profound applications.
We can train ourselves to:
Each of us already has this natural communication system that feeds us information all the time. So when we close down and become defensive—for a few minutes, a few days, months or even a lifetime—we’re cutting ourselves off not only from others, but also from our natural ability to communicate.
Mindful communication trains us to become aware of when we’ve stopped using our innate communication wisdom.
When we react to fear by shutting down the channel of communication, we’ve put up a defensive barrier that divides us from the world.
Signs you’re in the red light zone: