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#1 Acknowledge Jealousy
“It is not greed that drives the world, but envy.”
The first step to deal with an uncomfortable feeling is acceptance.
- If you ever catch yourself feeling those burning envious feelings, say “I’m , and I get jealous.”
- But more crucially, also say: “But it’s okay to feel jealous. It’s only human. And here’s what I’m going to do about it.”
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#5 Reach out to the Object of Your Jealousy
Reach out to him/her and humbly ask to learn from them. And then, maybe we become friends. And eventually, the jealousy falls away to become something better — like respect.
In this world of mistrust, it’s not isolation that will save us — it’s dialogue and empathy.
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#3 Practice the “100% Swap” Thought Experiment
Ask yourself:
“If I could swap my life completely for his/hers, including not just the good stuff, but all the bad things — would I?”
You don’t want someone else’s life. You just like fantasizing about it.
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#6 Talk It out — Get Support
We’re looking for here is someone who will listen and empathize with you. And then lend you some non-judgmental emotional support (plus a hug maybe?).
He/she doesn’t even need to give you advice on how to solve your problems. If it’s jealousy — technically, there’s no exter...
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#2 Talk to Yourself
Whenever you feel like punching someone, it’s useful to take a deep breath, pause, and ask yourself the following questions:
- What emotions am I feeling now? Is it anger? Is it hurt? Is it jealousy?
- What were the triggers that caused this emotion?
- W...
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“The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.”
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“When you envy someone, you put a wall up between yourself and the things about that person you envy.
If they have a good job, there’s now a new wall between you and getting a good job. Why? Because you are programming yourself to...
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#4 Count Your Blessings
Jealousy comes from feelings of inadequacy. Remember, if we feel like we’re not enough — that’s when we start looking outside at other people.
Gratitude is such a powerful tool that lots of researchers have studied it and proven one thing: it just makes people happier.
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#7 Overcome Insecurity — Build Your Self-Esteem
- Surround yourself with positive people, who will help build you up.
- Become good at things that are important to you.
- Decide on your core values. And then make progress in that.
Loving yourself is the ultimate antidote for jealousy. Because then y...
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#1. When someone asks something you’re just not sure about
It can be helpful to buy some time to analyze the situation and figure out what we want exactly.
- "I need some time to think. Can we pick this up in half an hour?" Or, "Can we talk about this later today, after I’ve had more time to think about it?”
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