How to Overcome Jealousy in Life | mr-stingy

Ask yourself:

“If I could swap my life completely for his/hers, including not just the good stuff, but all the bad things — would I?”

You don’t want someone else’s life. You just like fantasizing about it.

Jealousy comes from feelings of inadequacy. Remember, if we feel like we’re not enough — that’s when we start looking outside at other people.

Gratitude is such a powerful tool that lots of researchers have studied it and proven one thing: it just makes people happier.

So here’s a powerful exercise to do: every time you feel jealous, take out your phone and quickly note down three things you’re thankful for. Shift your focus away from the external, but look at what’s already good in your life.

Reach out to him/her and humbly ask to learn from them. And then, maybe we become friends. And eventually, the jealousy falls away to become something better — like respect.

In this world of mistrust, it’s not isolation that will save us — it’s dialogue and empathy.

We’re looking for here is someone who will listen and empathize with you. And then lend you some non-judgmental emotional support (plus a hug maybe?).

He/she doesn’t even need to give you advice on how to solve your problems. If it’s jealousy — technically, there’s no external problem to solve anyway.

1. Surround yourself with positive people, who will help build you up. 
2. Become good at things that are important to you.
3. Decide on your core values. And then make progress in that.

Loving yourself is the ultimate antidote for jealousy. Because then you realize that everything external you were looking for can actually be found within you.