The inkblot consists of patterns where you have to explain what you see. What a person sees says more about them than it does about the inkblot.
The same thing is true interpersonally. The qualities that make you likeable to one person will make you unlikable to another person. Research shows that people like other people with personalities most similar to their own. You can't control the preferences of the other person.
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