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Use the FORD Technique to Make Small Talk Easier

The FORD Technique for smooth small talk

The FORD technique is a quick and easy method to avoid awkward silences.

FORD is an acronym that stands for: Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams.

Think of a couple questions for each category, keep them saved in your memory bank, and you should be able to start up a lasting conversation with anyone you meet.

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Use the FORD Technique to Make Small Talk Easier

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The FORD Technique for smooth small talk

The FORD technique is a quick and easy method to avoid awkward silences.

FORD is an acronym that stands for: Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams.

Think of a couple questions for each category, keep them saved in your memory bank, and you should be able to start up a lasting conversation with anyone you meet.

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