We all have wanted to change our bad habits but lack the self-control to do it. This phenomenon is something that happens to everyone. Indeed, relying on self-control can only work as a short-term strategy. Researchers have found that people with high self-control spend less time in tempting situations. Simply put, it is easier to avoid temptation than resist it.

Self-control 

If you want to quit smoking, having a cigarette on the table will be counterproductive. To eliminate this habit, what you need to do is to put the cigarettes out of sight. A plate of cookies on your table will prompt you to start eating even when you’re not hungry. Store them away in a distant cupboard, and you will stop eating as much. The main point is this: you do things that are obvious and in plain sight. So you have to design your environment according to what you want.

Hiding Undesirable Things 

Making things obvious is effective in creating good habits. If you want to exercise more, try placing your exercise clothes beside your bed. The presence of the clothes will remind you to exercise every time you wake up. If you want to create a habit of reading, place your book on the work table so you cannot avoid seeing it. Doing this will reduce the amount of willpower needed to take action. Try to notice your environment. Are things in the right spot for you to do them?

Making Good Things Obvious 

Some habits give you delayed rewards. For example, exercising can be unpleasant in the present but rewarding in the future. However, creating a routine that gives you an immediate payoff will help make the habit more appealing. For example, you can reward yourself for meditating by eating a cookie. You can treat yourself to a massage after you exercise. Crafting your habits this way will give you both short-term and long-term rewards and increase your motivation.

Making The Rewards Obvious 

Is there any immediate reward you can attach to the habit you’re trying to make? Making the benefits more obvious will go a long way to helping you succeed.

Unlocking Success

You can create better habits by making good things more visible and undesirable things out of sight. 
You can rely on your willpower from time to time. But designing your environment the right way will ensure long-term success.

Visualizing Success

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Design your environment for success: The long-term strategy to foster good habits

<ol><li>Specific (simple, sensible, significant)</li><li>Measurable (meaningful, motivating)</li><li>Achievable (agreed, attainable)</li><li>Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based)</li></ol>

1. Setting clear and measurable goals 🎯

<ol><li>Make a list. Figure out how to write a daily routine begins by writing down everything you need to get done daily, both at home and at work</li><li>Structure your day. Think about when you work best. Then, group your tasks into the time of day that makes the most sense for when you will efficiently complete them.</li><li>Get specific</li><li>Schedule time for flexibility</li><li>Test drive your new routine </li></ol>

2. Developing a daily routine 📅

<ol><li>Write down all of your tasks</li><li>Determine which tasks are truly important</li><li>Stick to a schedule that reflects your priority tasks</li><li>Tackle your most intense, high-effort tasks first</li><li>Focus on one task at a time (try not to multitask</li></ol>

3. Prioritizing Tasks Based On Importance 

<ol><li>Have a plan the night before</li><li>Turn off the distractions</li><li>Get comfortable (knowing what environment makes you comfortable yet focused at the same time can help you maintain focus)</li><li>Practice meditation (allow your mind to let go of interrupting thoughts and get centered on one thing)</li><li>Set smaller goals</li><li>Sleep (help you increase your focus and improve your overall health)</li><li>Use visual reminders (stuck on the top of your office computer "Focus, Focus, Focus." Look at this reminder and repeat those words out loud.</li><li>Reward yourself (choose the task and the costomized reward)</li><li>Take a walk </li><li>Unplug and play</li></ol>

4. Staying focused and avoiding distractions

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Write down your goals</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Read your list every day and take action</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Break your goals down into smaller tasks</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Schedule time on your calendar</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Get up early. Waking up earlier than usual gives you extra time to focus on your goals without distractions. It can also help you make better decisions and be more productive throughout the day </li></ol>

5. Taking action on their goals 🏃  

<ol><li>Participate in meetup to learn from others</li><li>Read a book</li><li>Join a learning center</li><li>Use your drive time</li><li>Take advantage of the web</li><li>Set smart goals to track progress and motivate learning</li><li>Stay current with industry trends and best practices</li><li>Be willing to fall in order to learn</li><li>Focus on the process rather than the outcome</li><li>Don't be afraid to ask questions</li><li>Take time for reflection and relaxation</li><li>Play to your strengths</li><li>Learning from those around you</li><li>Build a portfolio of experiences</li></ol>

6. Constantly learning and growing 📚

<ol><li>Practice gratitude</li><li>Try to do more each day</li><li>Describe yourself with positive words</li><li>Surround yourself with positive people</li><li>Start meditating every day</li><li>Don't expect results</li><li>Try to make other people feel happy</li><li>Focus on what you get to do</li><li>Remember what you have to be thankful for</li><li>Stay connected with loved ones</li><li>Remember one good thing each day</li><li>Have things to look forward to (no matter how small)</li><li>Find absorbing hobbies</li><li>Don't immerse yourself in negative thinking</li><li>Think about your purpose in life </li></ol>

7. Keeping a positive attitude 😃

<ol><li>Keep a gratitude journal</li><li>Remember the bad. To be grateful in your current state, it's helpful to remember the hard times that you once experienced.</li><li>Ask yourself 3 questions. Meditate on your relationships using 3 questions 1.What have I received from__? 2.What have I given to__? What troubles and difficulty have I caused?</li><li>Share your gratitude with others</li><li>Come to your senses</li><li>Use visual reminders</li><li>Make a vow to practice gratitude</li><li>Watch your language. </li><li>Go through the motions. Smiling, saying thank you, and writing letters of gratitude.</li><li>Think outside the box. Flex your gratitude muscles</li></ol>

8. Practicing gratitude 🙏

<ol><li>Decide to surround yourself with greatness</li><li>Let go of negative relationships</li><li>Identify positive people</li><li>Join a professional group (online or in person, coach and seek out uplifting people to spend time with.)</li><li>Get outside your comfort zone to surround yourself with good people; spend time where they are</li></ol>

9. Surrounding themselves with positive influences 🌟 

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Identify your relationship needs</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Develop your people skills</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Focus on your emotional intelligence</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Practice mindful listening</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Schedule time to build relationships</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Manage your boundaries</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Appreciate others</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Be positive</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Avoid gossiping. If you're experiencing conflict with someone talk to them directly about the problem.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Be proactive in your networking efforts. Attend events and conferences, join professional organizations, and reach out to people in your network to schedule coffee or lunch dates</li></ol>

10. Networking and building relationships 🤝

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Set clear goals - define your short-term and long-term goals. Having a clear sense of purpose will help you prioritize tasks.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Plan your day - create a daily to-do list</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Time management - use time management techniques like the Pomodoro</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Declutter - keep your physical and digital spaces organized.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Use technology - utilize productivity apps and tools like task management apps, calendars, and project management software.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Set deadlines - assign realistic deadlines for tasks.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Single -tasking - focus on a task at a time rather than multitasking, which reduce overall productivity</li></ol>

11. Being organized and productive 🗂️  

<ol><li>Listen actively: pay close attention to the speaker and demonstrate that you're engaged by nodding, making eye contact and providing verbal cues like "I see" or "Go on"</li><li>Clarify your message: be clear and concise in your message. Avoid jargon or overly complex language</li><li>Body language: non-verbal cues, such as body language and facial expressions, play a significant role in communication. Be mindful of your gestures and posture</li><li>Empathize: try to understand the perspective and feelings of the person you're communicating with. Show empathy and acknowledge their emotions</li><li>Ask questions</li></ol>

12. Communicating effectively 💬

<ol><li>Open mindedness (embrace new ideas and be open to different perspectives)</li><li>Embrace change (recognize that change is a part of life)</li><li>Learn continuously (cultivate a growth mindset by actively seeking opportunities for learning and personal development)</li><li>Step out of your comfort zone (challenge yourself to try new experiences and activities)</li><li>Practice patience (be patient with yourself and others)</li><li>Maintain a positive attitude (a positive outlook can help you see the potential benefits of charge and adapt more effectively)</li><li>Problem solving. Develop strong problem solving skills</li><li>Set realistic expectations</li></ol>

13. Being adaptable and flexible 🔄

<ol><li>Set clear goals</li><li>Create a plan</li><li>Prioritize tasks</li><li>Establish a routine</li><li>Time management</li><li>Avoid distractions</li><li>Set deadlines</li><li>Monitor progress</li><li>Practice self-control</li><li>Accountability</li><li>Learn to say No</li><li>Visualize success</li><li>Avoid procrastination</li><li>Self-retraint</li><li>Maintain healthy habits</li><li>Seek support</li><li>Learn from mistakes</li><li>Self-Awareness</li><li>Resilience</li><li>Celebrate small wins </li></ol>

14. Being self-disciplined 🎖️

<ol><li>Noticing times when you lost your patience and what it felt like</li><li>Use the STOP practice</li><li>Practicing with the smaller stuff</li><li>Taking a break by moving and shifting focus</li><li>Reflect on circumstances </li></ol>

15. Being patient and persistent ⏳

<ol><li>Know your limits</li><li>Be assertive</li><li>Use a positive tone</li><li>Provide alternatives</li><li>Be honest</li><li>Practice Self-care</li><li>Be firm, be clear about your boundaries, and don't back down </li></ol>

16. Setting boundaries and saying "no" 🛑

<ol><li>Be organized</li><li>Be motivated</li><li>Don't overpromise</li><li>Be principled</li><li>Be sincere </li></ol>

17. Keeping promises and commitments 🤝

Habits are an essential part of our daily lives. They shape our behaviours, attitudes, and ultimately, our success.

1. Setting clear and measurable goals 🎯 2.

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A brief step-by-step explanation of how I deal with stress and anxiety:
<ul>
<li>Step 1 - Identify the Source of Discomfort</li>
<li>Step 2 - Analyze Stressful Thoughts</li>
</ul>
Disclaimer: I'm not a qualified professional of any kind when it comes to human psychology.

Worry Less

When you feel discomfort, the first thing you should do is ask yourself why you are feeling that discomfort. Where does it come from? Is it guilt, something you did in the near or distant past? Is it fear of what could happen in the future? Is it the discomfort of having to do something but not being able to do it now? What is it?
To understand that, you don't have to write down what you have been doing or avoiding until now. You don't have to meditate or even talk to yourself in the mirror for 10 minutes. You just have to calm down, take a deep breath, and focus on what is going on in your mind. It doesn't even take 10 seconds.

Step 1 - Identify the Source of Discomfort

This step is about analyzing the thing that is stressing you out. As mentioned above, there are three main ways of looking at stressful thoughts:
<ul>
<li>Guilt of the past</li>
<li>Procrastination (things you should do now but are putting off)</li>
<li>Fear of what could happen in the future</li>
</ul>
After you look at the situation from the perspective of time, you should start looking for other approaches. Other approaches include:
<ul>
<li>Is it a problem that needs to be solved?</li>
<li>Can I solve it?</li>
<li>Is it my fault? And so on.</li>
</ul>

Step 2 - Analyze Stressful Thoughts

If it is something you did in the past, chances are that you can't change it, and it is not a problem that requires a solution. You should just let go. Forgive yourself and promise to never do it again.
If you wronged somebody else, a smart approach would be to apologize. Tell them that you are sorry and that it will never happen again.
Stop worrying about what happened in the past. There's an Ethiopian saying that goes, "You don't build a house for a winter that is over." It's gone; move on.

Dealing with Guilt

This is what most of us have struggled with and are still struggling with now. Procrastination is the act of putting off tasks that you should do and cannot avoid in the long run.
You should look at it from various angles. Ask yourself questions like, "Why?", "What do I need to start doing the work?", "Who's at fault for not starting the work?" If you can answer these questions, you will get to work in no time.
Answering the above questions will help you understand the problem better. If the reason for your procrastination is mere laziness, get up and start by doing the worst part first.

Handling Procrastination

If there are things you need to have in place to start the work, start getting those things in place. Sometimes it's only a pen.
If there are other people that you need to start the work, call them or send them a text. Tell them that you should get started if you want the work to be done on time.
Don't worry, just do it.

Don't worry, just do it.

Some people are obsessed with the future. They are constantly anxious about what will happen. This arises from self-doubt and procrastination. Solving one solves the other after all.
When you are in a state of fear and anxiety stressing over the future, you should take a deep breath and try to analyze the exact thing that you are afraid of. What decisions can you make to control the outcome? Who controls the outcome? Is there anything you can do about it? If yes, well, just do it. If not, just wait and see what will happen.

Facing Fear

Of course, it is easier said than done. You can't just sit there and stop worrying. You shouldn't worry about things that you can not change, but you can't just switch it off either. There are ways to make it easier. Some of them are:
<ul>
<li>Meditation</li>
<li>Exercise</li>
<li>Going for a walk</li>
<li>Talking to someone you trust</li>
<li>Sleeping</li>
<li>Taking a shower</li>
<li>Most importantly, praying</li>
</ul>

Techniques for Dealing with Anxiety

Identify the cause of your anxiety. Can you solve it? If yes, solve it and don't think about it. If no, stop thinking about it and wait for things to happen. To make it easier, use one of the seven ways to help yourself feel comfortable. Pray to God.

Summary

There is nothing that you know that God doesn't. But there are a lot of things that God knows that you don't. Trust his plan.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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How to Stop Worrying

Our habits are integral to our daily lives. They shape our behavior and influence our success. While starting them can be relatively easy, maintaining them can be a more difficult challenge.

One method to increase your chances of maintaining a new habit is to be specific about when and where you will do it. For example, instead of a vague goal like "I want to exercise more," you can set a specific habit such as "I will go to the gym for 30 minutes every day at 6 PM." This specificity makes it easier for you to stick to the habit because you will precisely know what to do and when to do it. It is not always obvious when or where we should do something.

Being Specific 

When we are not specific about the details, we often get sucked into doing other things instead. Many things can get in the way. Determining a specific time and place will stop you from leaving things up to chance. It will help you follow through with your commitments.

After making your habits specific, you can track them as an effective way to monitor your progress and hold yourself accountable. By keeping track of your habits, you can see how you are doing and make changes when necessary. One of the most satisfying feelings you can get is the feeling of progress.

Keeping Track 

Tracking your habits will give you a sense of pleasure when you complete what you are supposed to do. This satisfaction gives you added motivation. Tracking your habits can also help you identify patterns in your behavior. For example, you may notice that you are more likely to skip your workout when you have a busy day at work. By identifying these patterns, you can change your schedule to ensure that you stick to your habit.

Being specific with your habits and tracking your progress is crucial for success. They will help you remove any doubt and give you the motivation you need. Start tracking your habits and experience the benefits for yourself.

Conclusion 

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The power of being specific: Tracking your habits and making them stick

Developing self-discipline is crucial for achieving personal and professional goals.

1. Self-discipline is the key to success:

Accepting responsibility empowers you to take control of your life and make positive changes.

2. Take responsibility for your actions:

Clearly defined goals provide direction and motivation, allowing you to focus your efforts effectively.

3. Set clear goals:

Consistency is key in attaining success; take small, deliberate steps towards your goals every day.

4. Take consistent action:

Effective time management enables you to accomplish more and make the most of your valuable resources.

5. Prioritize time management:

Procrastination hinders progress and success; learn strategies to overcome it and take immediate action.

6. Overcome procrastination:

Stop making excuses and take ownership of your choices and actions.

7. Eliminate excuses:

Positivity shapes your attitude and outlook, enabling you to face challenges with resilience and optimism.

8. Cultivate a positive mindset:

Mistakes and failures are opportunities for growth and learning; embrace them and use them as stepping stones toward success.

9. Learn from failures:

Taking care of your physical and mental well-being enhances your overall discipline and productivity.

10. Practice self-care:

These lessons from "No Excuses!" provide valuable insights and practical advice for developing self-discipline and achieving success in various aspects of life.

Thank You!

Ten lessons from "No Excuses!: The Power of Self-Discipline for Success in Your Life" by Brian Tracy:

You don’t need to have been born under a lucky star, or with incredible wealth, or with terrific contacts and connections, or even special skills...but what you do need to succeed in any of your life goals is self-discipline. Unfortunately, most people give in to the two worst enemies of success: they take the path of least resistance (in other words, they’re lazy) and/or they want immediate gratification: they don’t consider the long-term consequences of the actions they take today. No Excuses! shows you how you can achieve success in all three major areas of your life: 1. Your personal goals. 2. Your business and money goals. 3. Your overall happiness. Each of the 21 chapters in this book shows you how to be more disciplined in one aspect of your life, with end-of-chapter exercises to help you apply the “no excuses” approach to your own life. With these guidelines, you can learn how to be more successful in everything you do—instead of wistfully envying others who you think are just “luckier” than you. A little self-discipline goes a long way...so stop making excuses and read this book!

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Brian Tracy is Chairman and CEO of Brian Tracy International, a company specializing in the training and development of individuals and organizations.He has consulted for more than 1,000 companies and addressed more than 5,000,000 people in 5,000 talks and seminars throughout the US, Canada and 55 other countries worldwide. As a Keynote speaker and seminar leader, he addresses more than 250,000 people each year.Brian has studied, researched, written and spoken for 30 years in the fields of economics, history, business, philosophy and psychology. He is the top selling author of over 45 books that have been translated into dozens of languages.

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Everything changed for me when I understood this philosophy:Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job. If you work hard on your job you can make a living, which is fine. If you work hard on yourself you can make a fortune, which is superfine.You can have more than you’ve got, because you can become more than you are.

Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job.

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Jim Rohn: How You Can Become More Than You Are

We all know that our habits can make or break our lives. 
However, let's review the facts again and ensure we truly get what is at stake. The benefits of your habits are compounding. Let's imagine you are a writer. If you spend every day writing one page, you can complete a novel after one year. 
But think of all the other effects. Finishing that novel will give you a great sense of accomplishment. It will prove to you that you are not a quitter. It will also give you the self-confidence you need to finish other tasks.

The Compounding Benefits of Habits

By consistently honing your craft, you will also improve your writing. It will take you less effort to write a similar novel. Consequently, you will be able to write a much better one next year if you keep up your habits. 
Completing your novel will also open up new opportunities for you. You may be able to talk to book publishers and agree on a business deal. You may also enter the community of other authors and get more connections.

Improving Your Craft Through Consistent Habits

Whether you're a writer, a programmer, a parent, or doing something else, the benefits of consistently doing something good go beyond that particular thing. Good works usually open the door to other great opportunities. 
You are certainly capable of doing great things. The problem is that you may only feel like working towards it on certain days. On good days, you may have the self-control to overcome your emotions. But as you've probably learned from experience, self-control is not unlimited. Relying on it can only work as a short-term strategy.

Unlocking Opportunities with Good Habits

The best way to face less resistance when doing good things is by slowly making it a habit. Good habits are tough to start. But they can give you enough momentum so that every good action will take less effort. 
For example, while exercising can be difficult at first, it becomes much easier after consistent practice. Even when you are not motivated, you are much more likely to exercise because it has become a habit. 
Self-control is only for the short term. You can achieve unimaginably great things if you develop good habits. And you will find that the benefits will go beyond what you expect.

The Power of Good Habits for Achieving Great Things

The power of habits: How they can make or break your life

Building trust is essential in a new relationship.Demonstrate reliability and consistency.Be someone she can count on.

1. Trustworthiness 

Being open and transparent creates a strong foundation.Share your thoughts, dreams, and fears.Encourage her to do the same.

2. Openness

Flexibility shows your willingness to adapt.Be open to compromise and finding common ground.Respect her opinions and choices.

3. Flexibility

Being supportive is vital for a lasting connection.Celebrate her successes and offer encouragement.Be there for her during challenging times.

4. Supportiveness

Understanding her emotions is key.Listen actively and validate her feelings.Show compassion and empathy.Independence.Maintaining your own identity is crucial.Pursue your interests and hobbies. Give her space to do the same.

5. Empathy

Romance keeps the flame alive.Surprise her with small gestures and acts of affection.Keep the romance alive throughout the relationship.

6. Romance

Building emotional and physical intimacy is vital.Create a safe space for vulnerability and closeness.Deepen your connection through trust and understanding.

7. Intimacy

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ALLERGIES occur when the immune system reacts to a foreign substance such as pollen, bee venom, or pet dander.DEHYDRATION occurs when use or lose more fluid than you take in, and your body doesn't have enough water and other fluids to carry out its normal functions.MALNUTRITION is the condition that results from eating or dieting in which certain nutrients are lacking, in excess ( too high in intake ), or the wrong proportions.NOSOCOMEPHOBIA is defined as the fear of hospitals and clinics. Victims will be less prone to go to the doctor —MxGchef WP

Take the Initiative To Do Something

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Knowledge Worth Knowing

Well, we might all know that feeling of why life is not moving?  Even though you get up everyday, you keeping thinking about how you could have spend the day instead of actually doing it.

How does it feel when you are stuck?

There are many ways to avoid feeling stuck:-<ol><li>Stop feeling sorry for yourself</li><li>Watch your mouth</li><li>Don't make excuses</li><li>Don't compare</li><li>Keeping moving</li></ol>

How to get out of it?

Don't even think second time, just get up and do it. Do whatever you should be doing at that particular moment don't wait life to make things happen for you. Only you can just get up and do it.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself

The way you think a situation is going to be or the way you think about everything is going to be, will effect your reality. The way you look at a situation is the way it is, if you take it in a positive way it is positive, if not then, not. Whenever you are alone guard your thoughts, don't let negative thoughts flow your way interpret them and end it with a positive thought.

Watch Your Mouth

I know you might have said to yourself i will do it tomorrow today i am tired.Stop doing this and just do whatever you are planning to do all this time, it can be  writing your first book, learning something new and anything else. Don't think too much, start it and commit to it.

Don't make excuses

If you are trying to do something, first things first don't look at others and feel bad that you have not yet reached where they have reached. Just remember that you have just started and you will reach there too.

Don't compare

Exercise. Yeah as simple as that. The time you spend on scrolling YouTube shorts, Instagram reels and what not, can be spent in exercising and taking care of your body. Spare some time for workout, it can be from 20-40 mins and you would notice difference in your mood and your body.

Keeping moving

You control your life or else your life will control you.

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Ways to keep going when you life feels stuck

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5 Ways to Keep Going When Life Feels On Hold

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