Everybody’s got a plan, till they get punched in the face. And now, especially now, no one is going to fight now. People like talking now, they get on a stage, they get on Youtube, and they start talking.And some people are not made for handling criticism. Some people go off the deep end once you start criticizing them. I’ve gotten better at handling criticism as I’ve gotten older, but I can get even better.Sometimes I think in my head that I’m somebody, and then I’m easily offended. But when I know I’m nobody, I could never be offended.

“Some people go off the deep end once you start criticizing them.”

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Mike Tyson: Sometimes I Think In My Head That I’m Somebody

"The trouble is that you think you have time.”

Delaying or postponing tasks till the very last minute or after their due date is known as procrastination. It is also defined as the type of self-regulation failure defined by the unreasonable postponement of duties in spite of possible drawbacks.

What is Procrastination?

It is due to something inherently unpleasant about the task itself. Let’s take an example – having to clean a dirty bathroom.It might also stem from more profound emotions associated with the work, such as uncertainty about oneself, low self-worth, nervousness, or insecurity.

The Psychology behind why people Procrastinate?

● Not knowing how to do something.● Not care if it gets done or not.● Not having the courage to begin● Accusing illness or ill health● Believing you can complete it in the nick of time.● Requiring time to reflect on the assignment.● Putting off one activity in favour of another.

Reasons why people procrastinate:

Procrastination only turns into a more significant problem when it starts to interfere with a person’s everyday life and becomes chronic. In some cases, poor time management is not only a problem—it’s a big part of their way of life.> Increased levels of sickness and stress.> Stress on social interactions has increased.> Resentment from coworkers, classmates, friends, and relatives.

Consequences of Procrastination

1. Create a to-do list and consider adding a deadline to each item to help you stay on track.2. Make little movements: To make your duties look less daunting, divide up the items on your list into smaller, more doable jobs.3. Identify the warning signs: Be mindful of any procrastinating thoughts and make an effort to stifle them. If you find yourself thinking about putting off your task, make yourself sit down and work on it for a few minutes.

Think of these as your exercises for procrastination:

4. Get rid of distractions: Consider what diverts your attention the most, such as Facebook updates, Instagram, or the local news, and switch off those sources.5. Reward yourself: Give yourself a pat on the back when you complete a task on your to-do list on schedule.

This guideline advises taking immediate action to overcome procrastination. Ideally, start with a simple task that will take at least ten minutes to complete. If you find it easier, schedule a precise 10-minute work period and stick to it.

Do you know about the 10-minute rule in psychology?

"So when you find yourself procrastinating, the first thing I want you do Is identify why you don't want to do the task at hand. Think about it. You don’t have to force yourself to do the task that you enjoy. So when you recognize that you only encounter resistance when it's an activity that you don't want to do, that when you want to take a few minutes to ponder the reason why you don't want to do that particular activity. For example, do you think it's boring? Does it make you uncomfortable? Once you figure out why you are avoiding it, you are ready to develop your plan of action."

A person or group completes a quantity of work in a predetermined length of time, which is known as productivity. You may accomplish more with less time or effort if you are more productive.

Productivity

> Reduced Stress.> Improved Well-Being.> Better Engagement with work.> Improved sense of purpose.> Improved Mood.

why productivity matters:

1. Focus on one task at a time:While juggling projects or tasks may eventually enable you to complete them, concentrating on one at a time may increase productivity.2. Take frequent Pauses:Although it may be tempting to put off taking a break, failing to give yourself a brief respite can negatively impact your productivity by causing exhaustion or burnout.3. Prioritize your largest chores first:You can stay more focused if you work on your largest and most time-consuming jobs before tackling any other assignments.

Strategies to Boost Productivity

4. Aim for two minutes:According to the two-minute rule, you should finish chores that take two minutes or less and give yourself two minutes to begin any small tasks that you have been putting off.5. Time-block your itinerary: You can also boost your productivity by using time blocks in your plan. You would assign a time restriction to each activity you worked on using this technique.6. Get rid of distractions:Consider what diverts your attention the most, such as Facebook updates, Instagram, or the local news, and switch off those sources.

“Procrastination has been called a thief—the thief of time. I wish it were no worse than a thief. It is a murderer; and that which it kills is not time merely, but the immortal soul.”

“Procrastination is my sin.
It brings me naught but sorrow.
I know that I should stop it.
In fact, I will — tomorrow!”

— Attributed to Gloria Pitzer

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The Psychology of Procrastination: Strategies to Boost Productivity

Nutrition experts have recognized for many years that western diets rich in fats and sugar may be behind the cause of obesity, but debate has reigned over the primary culprit: is it intake of too many calories? Is it specific foods such as carbohydrates or fat? This has led to some groups recommending reducing sugar, some reducing carb intake, while others believe the key is reducing high fat-foods.

Is It Sugar, Carbs, Or Fat?

A new paper suggests these theories are not incompatible with each other, and that they can all be brought together in one unified pathway that centers around one true driver: fructose.According to the researchers, the primary problem in obesity is fructose, which is present in table sugar and high fructose corn syrup. Fructose can also be made in the body from carbohydrates (particularly glucose). When fructose is metabolized, it lowers the active energy in the body (known as ATP, or adenosine triphosphate) which causes hunger and food intake.

It’s Fructose, Actually

What the researchers call the "fructose survival hypothesis" brings together most of the dietary hypotheses of obesity, including the two that have been most incompatible with each other—the energy balance theory, which proposes that too much food (and primarily fat) drives obesity, and the carbohydrate-insulin model, which puts carbohydrates at the center of weight gain.

The “Fructose-Survival Hypothesis”

Essentially, the energy balance theory and the carbohydrate-insulin theory, which put a litany of metabolic and dietary drivers at the center of the obesity epidemic, are all pieces of a puzzle unified by one last piece: fructose. Fructose is what triggers our metabolism to go into low power mode and lose our control of appetite, but fatty foods become the major source of calories that drive weight gain.

Fructose Triggers Our Metabolism To Go Into Low Power Mode

To unify these theories in particular, the researchers say we can look to hibernating animals as an example. When we're hungry and low on active energy, we go into survival mode. Animals know to forage for food when energy levels begin to fall; it’s why bears eat fruit to prepare for winter. Fruits are high-fructose foods, and fructose significantly stifles active energy. Fat acts as stored energy, but eating high-fructose foods blocks the replacement of active energy from fat storage, keeping active energy low like a bear preparing for a long winter's nap.

It Blocks The Replacement Of Active Energy From Stored Energy

The fructose survival hypothesis views obesity as a low-energy state. Identifying fructose as the conduit that redirects active energy replacement to fat storage shows that fructose is what drives energy imbalance, which unites theories.While more work is needed to fully validate this unifying hypothesis, this is a hopeful first step in potentially identifying more targeted preventions for obesity and related metabolic imbalance management.

And It Redirects Active Energy Replacement To Fat Storage

Obesity as a low-energy state, induced and extended by fructose. 

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The “Fructose Survival” Hypothesis

A habit is a "settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up."Simply put, a habit is something done consistently.

What Is It

I've found that "good" and "bad" are subjective terms. So I will will not be referring to the types of habits as "good" or "bad." Instead, they will be:<ul><li>Constructive </li><li>Destructive </li></ul>

Types

Habits where the pros outweigh the cons.(Just like good and bad, the pros and cons of something are subjective. But I think they have less moral weight behind them.)Exercise is a great example of a constructive habit. You get tired and sore, but over time you become stronger, have more energy, and are overall happier.I call them constructive because you are building a better life with them.

Constructive Habits

Habits where the cons outweigh the pros.Smoking is a good example of this. While nicotine does calm you down, long term use results in major lung and health problems.I call them destructive because you are worsening what you currently have.

Destructive Habits

Doing something everyday for 30 days makes it a habit.Obviously it doesn't need to be that exact formula, but it is the most effective.In the same sense, not doing something for 30 days will break the habit. Not necessarily the urge, but the habit.Keep in mind that progress is not linear. There will be days that you fail. Do not use this as an excuse to not form or break your habit, but as a reason to be patient with yourself.

Consistency Is Key

Make a list of things you want to do but are not doing.Some habits need to be gradually built up to, and some can be started immediately.Gradual habits include:<ul><li>Exercise</li><li>Reading</li><li>Writing</li></ul>Anything that requires stamina to be built up is gradual. Immediate habits include:<ul><li>Hygiene</li><li>Tidying Up</li><li>Tracking Expenses</li></ul>Anything small enough to not require much energy, mental or physical, to do.

Starting Habits

Make a list of things you are doing that you don't want to do.Much like the previous slide, habits can be destroyed gradually or immediately.Gradual habits include:<ul><li>Addictions</li><li>Harmful Thoughts</li><li>Poor Sleep Hygiene</li></ul>Anything that requires consistency over a long period of time is gradual.Immediate habits include:<ul><li>App Usage</li><li>Online Purchases</li><li>Not Getting Enough Fresh Air</li></ul>Anything that can be immediately and easily changed is considered immediate.

Stoping Habits

Condensing all the habit works into one simple series

Habits 101

People don’t forget how you make them feelSo, make them feel appreciated & importantOne way to do this is through complimentsThe compliments you give should be unique & honest.

1. Give sincere compliments

Giving common complimentsThe same compliment said over & over again looses its valueIt comes off as flattery & no one likes flatteryFlattery does more harm than good in the long run.

A mistake far too many people make is … 

Skip the small talk & ask for their opinionsIt gives you the opportunity pick out similaritiesHowever, don’t ask complicated or difficult questionsKeep it simpleYou should be listening not reply, but to understand.

2. Ask for opinions

What is the worst that can happen?They don't talk to you?They weren’t talking to you beforeOnce you start, everything else just flows outRemember to keep it simpleDon’t forget a big smile & your enthusiasm it makes a big difference.

3. Just do it

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Changed behaviour is the only apology.Otherwise, it's just manipulation.

Maybe happiness is this: Not feeling like you should be elsewhere, doing something else, being someone else.

Be the person you needed when you were younger.

The black sheep is sometimes the only one telling the truth.

The best relationship is when yesterday's disagreement didn't stop today's communication.

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Quotes that have made me think

This YouTube video discusses the topic of habits and how to break them. It begins by acknowledging that most people have some sort of habit they would like to stop, such as nail-biting.

Understanding Habits and Breaking Them

Habits are defined as regular behaviors that are performed subconsciously in response to certain environments or cues. These behaviors can range from simple actions like hair-picking to more complex practices ingrained in daily routines.

Defining Subconscious Habits

The video explains that habits form because the brain associates the behavior with a reward, such as the release of dopamine that mediates feelings of pleasure. 
Over time, the brain builds connections linking the reward with the behavior and starts associating the behavior with other cues in the environment. Eventually, the context alone can trigger the habit.

How Habits Form and Reward Connection

While habits can be beneficial, not all of them serve us well. Intentions alone often fail to lead to long-term behavior change. However, by understanding the basis of habits, we can create better plans for changing them.

Changing Habits with Understanding

The video suggests identifying the cues or environments that trigger the habit and modifying them to make it more difficult to perform the habit.

Identifying Triggers and Modifications

For more ingrained habits like nail-biting or hair-pulling, habit reversal training can be helpful. This involves replacing the detrimental habit with a less harmful one.

Reversing Ingrained Habits

For example, keeping a fidget toy at your desk and using it when you feel the urge to bite your nails.
The video concludes by emphasizing that breaking a habit takes time and patience. It also suggests celebrating the good habits that help us in our daily routines.

Tools for Breaking Habits

Explore the psychology behind how good and bad habits are formed, and get tips on how to manage these behaviors.

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Why is it so hard to break a bad habit?

What situations come into your mind when you think about discomfort?<ul><li>You would like to contact someone, but don't because you haven't for a long time.</li><li>You would like to share your constructive criticism at work, but don't want to feel rejected.</li><li>Or you would like to be able to pet a dog to start a little talk with the owner, but don't feel certain.</li></ul>That are just some examples for more introverted people like myself, but everyone has their own comfort- and discomfort zones.

Do you have Zone Control?

Discomfort can be caused by a mixture of emotions like<ul><li>Uncertainty - How will someone react to my action?</li><li>Worries - What will someone think about me after taking this action?</li><li>Fear - Will I be rejected, because of taking this action?</li></ul>All subforms of anxiety and shame.

How do you act on your Discomfort?

Anxiety and shame cause a stress response in our bodies. The extent and that's why also the consequences of this stress response depends on our perception.<ul><li>An extrovert might not perceive the earlier mentioned example-situations as stress</li><li>While an introvert might even avoid social situations (fight or flight) in the first place</li></ul>

The consequences of Stress

Do one thing everyday, that scares you. – Eleanor Roosevelt

A quote that can change your Perception*

*in longterm with habitual practice.When we collect more experience with our age, some realise that changing our view, values, habits etc. wasn't and won't ever come easy, but gets harder with age tendentionally.

Children feel less discomfort of taking action, because in their early life stage they are less capable of thinking about the possible scary or emberassing consequences of their actions (less anxiety & shame). Their few life experiences make them less able to anticipate. Instead they focus more on the present than the future.

Why change is easier for Children? 

<ul><li>Introverts think more likely about the consequences, the reactio, of their actions (future focus)</li><li>Extroverts think more likely about the action itself (present focus) or are more stoic about their thoughts focusing possible future outcomes</li><li>Those extroverts who notice a stress response, but react calmly, are more likely to have learned it intentionally with self-awareness.</li></ul>

What's the difference between Introverts and Extroverts?

Do you know Mel Robbins' "5 second rule"?If not, the key is to distract your brain from your discomforting emotions, with her advice by counting from 5 to 1 and then act.It works for some people, because logic (counting backwards) activates different brain regions than when perceiving your emotions, which can get in the way of taking action.

How can that quote change your Perception?

The quote does at least three things to help you being more in the present moment<ol><li>Distracting you from discomfort</li><li>Creating a potential habit of dealing with discomfort</li><li>Additionaly creates self-awareness of what causes your discomfort</li></ol>1. & 2. are the same benefits form the 5 sec rule. I can recommend the Deepstash articles about it ;)

Why considering the Quote?

Being aware of your own perception can help to identify your own emotions better. When you ask yourself in response of the quote – Why am I scared? You rationalise your emotions and question them to be appropriate or not. Your learn more about yourself.

Your growing companion Self-Awareness

When you learn and understand yourself better, you are more considerate and compassionate with yourself.It will be easier for you to find more reasons to act than not to act on your discomfort, because when you repeatly make the decision to overcome it, it might become a habit. Your brain adapts. The stress response reduces and it becomes easier to focus on the present.A best friend gives you good advice, because her/his emotional stress response don't cloud their mind staying rational.Self-awareness in situations of discomfort might help you to become your own best friend.

Your own Best Friend

means - change to become better.If you decide to do one thing a day that scares you, better start small.Small steps of change bring compound success in longterm without being overwhelmed quickly, because your brain gets the time to adapt to your new strategy to turn active cognitive chosen changes into passive automated habits.

Kaizen

Mastery doesn't come overnight. Mastery takes time.A basic principle is – The more time you spend on something, the more competence you grow in that area.Documenting the situations, where you overcame your discomfort with grattitude briefly and daily in a notebook increases the amount of practice to consolidate your initial change into a habit with thought structured writing.

Hone your progress of Change

The quote in this article changed the way I perceive and act on my zone of discomfort. Today, discomfort is my emotional indicator for where I still have or want to grow. But I try to avoid becoming an self-optimisation addict (other form of stress compensation).Before habitually or blindly acting on every discomfort, you can ask yourself, does it make me happier overcoming it?I'm happy to be an introvert, because it has benefits and that fits my values.Self-awareness can also help you evaluating every change you plan to make based on your own definition of happiness.

Note – Self-reflection

What works for my zone control doesn't have to work for you. We all come in diversity. Remember this before you comment. I just share my personal experiences and don't guarantee anything. With that in mindThank you for your understanding and your attention!

Comfort - Inaction - Inexperience - Inability.Discomfort - Action - Experience* - Ability.*incl. failures

Choose your Takeaway Mindset-Cycle

This article adresses a possible approach of getting more life-control about discomfort causing situations. It covers the importance of perception as a key for change and integrates common concepts like the "5 second rule", self-awareness, habitualization, "Kaizen" and self-reflection, while contrasting an introverted mindset with an extroverted one.

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Mastering Discomfort: Your Journey to Self-Improvement

Instead of juggling tasks haphazardly, <a href="https://productive.fish/blog/time-blocking/">time blocking method</a> encourages us to divide specific blocks of time for particular tasks. It's more than just planning; it's about ensuring our efforts align perfectly with our goals.

Time Blocking is NOT about Blocking Yourself

Begin by listing every task, big or small. Once you have it all out, arrange tasks by importance and deadline. Next, group similar tasks or those that complement each other. For instance, all your email-related tasks can be clubbed together. It's all about maximizing focus.

 List – Prioritize – Group

Now, for each task or group of tasks, predict how long they might take. This isn't about being exact but being realistic. It's okay to set buffer times. Remember, it's better to overdeliver than to rush.

Estimate Task Duration

With durations in hand, start assigning blocks on your calendar. Think of it like building a puzzle; find the best fit for each piece. Be sure to include not just work but everything—breaks, lunch, even "me-time." The idea is to have a holistic view of your day.

Create Time Blocks

Reflect is the keyword. After you've tried <a href="https://productive.fish/blog/time-blocking/">time blocking</a> for a bit, look back. Were there tasks that consistently ran over? Any blocks that felt too short or too long? Refinement is essential. Remember, this method is about adapting to get the best results, not rigidly sticking to what first was set.

Review and Update

By expanding your approach to time blocking, you're not just scheduling tasks. You're building a customized strategy to maximize every moment of your day. With #TimeBlocking, you're in the driver's seat of your time. Buckle up and ride toward higher productivity! 🚀📈

Remember, the path to efficiency is a journey, not a destination. With #TimeBlocking, you’re well on your way!

Take control of your time with the time blocking method. Organize your schedule like a pro and boost productivity.

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I’m not motivated. It’s discipline. Understand the difference and it will cut some of your excuses out. Motivation is not an excuse when you don’t need it to do anything.

Where (or When) motivation fails, discipline prevails.

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